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Just a little sad today. This winter I got a lovely little kitten to be buddies with my adult cat. They were great pals within just a few days. She was curious and playful and had no fear of anything. Recently she started getting lethargic. Not so sociable as she used to be. But it was gradual. It wasn't until I really looked at her personality a month ago vs a week ago that I really noticed. The past week, she took to peeing on the rug - just 20 feet from a freshly cleaned litter box (one of 3 in the house to keep her happy!). Last night I tried to perk her up with some canned food. Up until the past couple of weeks, she's a total little piggy/scavenger! But even though she was interested, she didn't touch it. She was even out and about a bit last night investigating my son's dinner and jumping up on his little table. This morning, I found more little puddles on the rug, she was super lethargic and she squeaked in pain when I picked her up. I immediately called into work and stalked the clock until my vet opened.<br><br>
They got me an emergency-squeeze-me-in appointment. Turns out the poor little thing has lost weight in the past couple of months. She was in at 5 months and weight 3 lbs (yes, very tiny), and today, at almost 7 months, she was just 2.25 lbs. All bones and fluff. Her kidneys were very swollen and she was just not doing well at all. I spoke with the vet about everything. She was the sole survivor of her litter and had growth issues all along. I knew there was a chance of health problems because of that but 2 months ago she was crazy healthy--just little. The vet said that there were likely congenital issues...definitely kidneys, possibly other issues as well. She recommended compassionate euthenasia since we could throw every treatment money could buy at her and still probably only have 1% chance of her pulling through. I agreed with her. I had a hunch when we went in that it might be kidneys because of the peeing issues that just started. And I knew she wasn't growing much, but I hadn't realized she was losing weight. I do think she was happy with us though. It's going to be sad to explain to my three year old. <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/4487777560/" target="_blank">He adored her.</a> He'll be fine, but sad.<br><br>
Ooh...the breeder just emailed. She was super close with Poppy so I wanted to let her know (and since she is breeding, I think it's important to share the health information). She's really sad too. Back to distracting myself to stop crying.<br><br>
I'm glad, but a little surprised at how sad I am. I've never cried at the loss of a pet before. But except when I was really little, the last pets I lost were almost 20 yrs old. It was time. And I wasn't there making the decision. I just knew they were ill and my parents let me know. I'm a big advocate of compassionate euthenasia. I knew this was part of bringing pets into my family. And I have other things to say, but they're making me cry.<br><br>
Anyway, thanks for listening to me ramble a bit.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> We had to put down my 14 yr old cat who I had expected to have at least a few more years and it was... really really hard. I had a similar experience with losing a 20 yr cat that was my parents and I cried a little but knew she had a good long life. I guess I just expected a longer life from the more recent kitty.<br><br>
I think unexpected death is just a difficult thing to deal with, in any situation.
 

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me too...its always hard...they are family too. One we had gotten as a rescue but she was just..damaged and it was the best thing for you. I went to bed and cried for two days over it.<br><br>
Then I had to put our 14 year old cat to sleep because she had holes in her lungs from asthma other issues...she couldn't breathe anymore it was awful...<br><br>
You have to do what is best for THEM not what is easier for us and sometimes the best thing is to be let go....
 

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awww hunney! i am so sorry you had to do this. I started crying when you said she squeaked in pain when you picked her up...so sad <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
*big hugs for you*
 

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Thanks all. I know it was the right decision. And I really don't think she was hurting at all until today. Though she's been unwell for a while without me realizing it. I think this was one of those things that hits a certain level and deteriorates quickly. I'm glad I brought her in when I did. I would have hated for my son to pick her up when she was hurting. She's been staying out of his way more lately, but still out and about with everyone in the evenings. It was just a bit of a surprise this morning. And, I'm glad for her sake that I am sad for her. Everyone deserves to be mourned.
 

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I'm sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Talking to my son went well - as well as it can with a three year old. I explained it to him, then I had him help me explain it to our other cat (to make sure he got it). He has a grasp of the facts as I presented them. But he'll need to be a bit older before he can really process them I think. My biggest concern was to make sure that he didn't think she'd been banished for being naughty and peeing on the carpet -- I've been pretty frustrated with that and he knows it. And I really didn't want him to think it was because he hurt her. Until last night, I was thinking it might be triggered by stress of my son playing with her, although thinking back to when she first got here, that didn't fit exactly either. But I'd been trying to help him treat her super gently since clearly something was going on.<br><br>
So the facts as presented to DS:<br>
Poppy was really sick. She wasn't naughty and we didn't hurt her (i.e. we don't banish our family for being naughty and he didn't cause this to happen). Her insides were sick and hurt and that's what was making her pee on the rug. I took her to the doctor but the doctor didn't have any medicine that could make her better. So the doctor used some medicine to help her go to sleep so she didn't hurt any more. And then she died, so she would not wake up again. We will all miss her and we can be sad, but it's ok to not feel sad. (He's picked up the words die and dead at preschool but, typical 3 yr old, doesn't really get that it's permanent.)<br><br>
It's a little ironic because just a week ago, I avoided the death conversation with DS at my grandmother's funeral. But then, he never knew my grandmother. So when he saw her, he decided that the casket was a hospital gurney. I answered his questions without ever covering anything up. But he hasn't gotten to the level of tough questions yet.<br><br>
My mom mentioned that they should owe me a new kitten, but that's the last thing on my mind. I took the risk of health problems when I knew she had failure to thrive early on. They didn't hide anything from me. It's just one of those things. I don't want a refund or a replacement.<br><br>
Thanks all for letting me grieve here a bit. It helps.
 

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Oh your little puffball looks like my little puffball cat, she's tiny too. I'm so sad for you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 
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