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DD was at the playground. Hubby and I were letting her run amok and wave and say hi to all the others, hubby basically following her around as I read our mail.<br><br>
Hubby is busy playing perfect papa, DD screaming and giggling and running like only a toddler can to play "catch me"<br><br>
I'm at the picnic table where a lovely moma (all tanned, perfect build, pretty done up in her jogging "clothes" used only for the purpose of working out) was kinda going through some journal type notations and talking on the phone. She talked incessently (ignoring her son..I noticed she didn't even look up) as her 5-6 year old large son ran around chaseing all the older kids, throwing pine cones, shoes, rocks and anything else he could grab at the other kids. The other children are ranging from age 3-12 & they are calling out "ma'am...umm hey ma'am...'cuse me, hey nice lady in the shorts!..no not you ma'am the other lady, your son is throwing stuff, he won't stop." She ignored the polite inquiries. She stopped the conversation with some petty excuse she stomped over threatened her son, grabbed him, hauled him around, hollered some more and then after he "lipped" her she whalloped him on his little bum in front of all the kids! The kids were pretending she had ceased to exist and were wandering to the far side of the playground ( they were stunned she was so loud and mean..they were high tailing it as she started her tirade.) she followed them to tell them off for "encourageing him" by asking for help to get him to stop! the children protested that they were not calling out to encourage him but asked him to stop and he would be in trouble for throwing stuff since it's not allowed. She explained they were making fun of him and ignoring him and she saw it all. Her son got spanked again, then hauled off the playground as Hubby and I left (she was vibing enough to clear out half the playground). One other lady (Indian and she speaks very little english, she always says hello to me) was there and just couldn't take her eyes off of this woman..She seemed as stunned and off balence as the kids and I were. Hubby made the eyebrow twitch of "we are leaving now" and I said 'lets head back..."<br><br>
What would you do? Hubby says to leave spanking with spanking parents, we cannot change a culture, others lives are not our jobs, just leave it be, but those kids didn't deserve to be blamed, the babies playing didn't need to see an ill timed behavior treated worse by a parent!! My dd got scared when she yelled, ran to DH. My first reaction is to be defensive and say she was off her rocker, but then I do not want to cause a stir in our new area..also...I don't know if there is a dynamic the kids around here have that may have something to do with it, or maybe just a bad mannered mom who's never going to learn...
 

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Tough situation. I might have tried to stand up for the boy......I don't now if it would have done much good. I only go to the park when we are the only people there, because I cant stand being exposed to stuff like that. ((hugs)) mama
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">What would you do? Hubby says to leave spanking with spanking parents, we cannot change a culture, others lives are not our jobs, just leave it be, but those kids didn't deserve to be blamed, the babies playing didn't need to see an ill timed behavior treated worse by a parent!!</div>
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The problem here,though,is she was involving young children that were NOT her kids by running around blaming other children for her horrible behaviour.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: I kinda agree,there's not usually much you can do,or at least I wouldn't personally go up to her and start going off on her if she spanked her kid then left (although I don't think I could really control my jaw from dropping,even as common as spanking is whenever I see it happening I am still kinda shocked,kwim?)<br>
But she started becoming irate towards other peoples kids. And if someone is coming up to MY kid,and blaming him for her serious lack of control and judgement,you better believe I am going to say something! She had no right to start going after other people's kids accusing them of "encouraging" her son's behaviour. Ugh...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">The problem here,though,is she was involving young children that were NOT her kids by running around blaming other children for her horrible behaviour.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: I kinda agree,there's not usually much you can do,or at least I wouldn't personally go up to her and start going off on her if she spanked her kid then left (although I don't think I could really control my jaw from dropping,even as common as spanking is whenever I see it happening I am still kinda shocked,kwim?)<br>
But she started becoming irate towards other peoples kids. And if someone is coming up to MY kid,and blaming him for her serious lack of control and judgement,you better believe I am going to say something! She had no right to start going after other people's kids accusing them of "encouraging" her son's behaviour. Ugh...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:</div>
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I would be VERY angry if another parent yelled at or accused my dcs in this situation!!<br><br>
I've been to the park where some parents just chat on the phone the whole time ignoring their kids... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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