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I just don't know what to do any more

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I'm miserable. I hate my life. Don't get me wrong, I adore my kids but I'm otherwise miserable. I don't really think this is PPD, more of a situational depression, but I don't know what to do. I'm just sick of every thing. I'm sick of waking up every hour of the night to nurse my son. I'm sick of my dp who seems to have no clue how to interact with ds and acts like he's a nuisance because he's not as good or easy as dd was/is. I'm sick of this freaking house that will never be finished. I'm sick of feeling like we're not actually partners in life. I'm sick of constantly worrying about money. I'd be happy if I never had to have sex again but at the same time I'm sick of not enjoying sex. I'm lonely. I feel like I have no one to talk to. I don't know what to do any more.
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You're doing a great job just feeding that baby! It is such hard work. Have you talked with DP about this? Does he realize what he's doing? Sounds like you're more sleep deprived than anything else. It's hard to function. Writing in a journal may help you organize your thought better, too.
It sounds like you're in a tough place right now. Any chance you can see a therapist? Even if its not depresssion, talking to a therapist can be a BIG help, even for just a few sessions.

Sounds like you're isolated too. Any way you can meet other moms? Even just going to storytime at a library or bookstore to see other moms can help. Just talking about your kids can be a casual way to start a conversation. Find some way to be with other moms with kids of similar ages. The conversations may start out casual, but eventually you get to sharing about more personal stuff.

These times ARE tough. Doesn't help if you feel your partner is not helping or the weather is crappy or your child has a tough temperment. Keep coming here when you can. Sometimes we're great at responding, other times we aren't. (Hard when we're all struggling sometimes!)

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I'm relatively new to MDC and had never checked this forum out before tonight. Your post really hit me though...

I am so sorry about the sadness and frustration you were feeling a few days ago.

And I really hope you've found a real-live person to talk to who can give you a real-live hug...
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If you could get your DP to agree, I recommend couples counselling. It has really helped my DH and I adjust to our new roles and having high needs child. It has also helped me with the occasional desire I have to just up and run away from home. Seeking help is the best thing you can do for yourself, and it is so important, because you can't care for others if you don't care for yourself.

Sending love and prayers your way....
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