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and she didn't freak out!!!!<br><br>
I feel like such a child. We lied about ds' homebirth because I thought my parents would be staunchly opposed to our decision and would worry themselves and us incessantly.<br><br>
But...out of the blue, I decided to tell her on the phone today that this next baby will be born at home and she said "Oh, okay, that's your decision."<br><br>
Wow, I'm in shock.
 

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How cool!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime">
 

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Good for her! (and you for telling her....just think of the conversations you can have now!!!)<br>
I was a little worried about telling my MIL (she's an RN) about our home birth this time, but since I wanted her to be there, (she was at DD's hospital birth with a CNM) I figured I'd better let her know ahead of time!<br>
She's really excited about it, and of course excited just to be a part of it all!
 

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I felt dumbfounded at my own mom's reaction, she was fully supportive and amazed and happy. I never for one moment would have predicted that!!<br><br>
It's so nice to be able to freely speak of my plans with her, I'm glad you have your mom to talk to about it too.
 

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isn't it refreshing?? My mom is totally cool with it and just wants to make sure that she can be there and noone will kick her out of the room (like what happened in the hospital with my first birth)
 

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so you never told her your first was born at home? that's amazing will power!<br><br>
my mom was feeling fine & good about the homebirth until i told her i was switching to midwives farther from my home & was advised to be prepared for a precipitous birth (which i've had) during rush hour traffic!? she's amazing at expressing her concerns but not forcing them on me, though.<br><br>
i'm so glad your mom was ok with it. have you been able to tell her about your first homebirth?
 

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That's awesome that she's so supportive! I'm dreading telling my mom that not only am I having a homebirth -- but I'm having it in HER house. (We live with my folks.)
 

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Wow...that's really great!<br><br>
Regarding telling family (I haven't told anyone about our proposed homebirth), on one hand, I want to give them the benefit of the doubt that they'd be supportive of our decision, but on the other hand, I don't want to have to deflect negativity for the next three months, nor have them try to sway DH backto the idea of hospital birth. I guess it is kind of crappy for me to prejudge them, but I would just rather not risk it. They can find out after the fact, I suppose. Is anyone else feeling this way?
 

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My mother was horrible to me when I informed her of our plans to homebirth Henri. She was unspeakably rude to my midwife the whole time, we should have kicked her out. I'm glad your mom is nicer!
 

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My Mom was also supportive when I told her of my hombirth plans with #3. She said "The Mama in me is worried about my baby but the woman in me says You Go Girl!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> She's not a big fan of OBs or hospitals (she works in a hospital) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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<span>Thats good <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br>
i remember with my 1st my sister called me selfish for wanting a homebirth (this comeing from someone who has never been pregnant) also my mum seemed a bit funny saying stuff like would you not be better in hospital, also with my 2nd my mum seemed to think i would go to hospital now that i had got it out of my system <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"><br>
my sister was at my 2nd and 3rd births and now realises how good hb are although says she doesn't think she could do it herself</span>
 

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My mom freaked out when I told her I was having homebirth with my last dd but she took the initutive herself to research homebirths and happen to visit me once when my midwife came for an appoitment and now her views are completely supportive.
 

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Oh and my sister had a natural childbirth and my mom said,"Where do my kids get this from? She also won't circumsize."<br><br>
I laughed and said good for her!!!! My mom was stunned I said that...lol
 

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Hi, I'm new here, hope you don't mind.<br>
That's great that your mother was so accepting!<br>
I haven't told my mother about my plans yet, I'm really not sure what she'll say. But I am nervous. You ladies have given me some courage.<br>
OT: How do I edit my (nonexistent) signature??
 
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