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I'm so sick of my 9 month old. He has been such a little hellion lately, and just refuses to be set down EVER unless he's sleeping. I don't remember the last time he napped for longer than 25 minutes. My house is a mess, he's begun to hate the mei tai, and he's been so crabby that I didn't even get a shower this morning.<br>
Don't get me wrong, I love him to death, I just want a b-r-e-a-k. All I've done this week is deal with him for an hour, get fed up, go find someplace to go to distract me from how much I hate dealing with this level of fussiness, then reluctantly come home, turn the tv on and wish the day away. Anyone else living with a monster???
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> It's so hard!!! I see you're in fairly early pregnancy, and that makes it worse!! Is there anyone who can give you a little break, just to get out of the house? It sounds like you're getting really burned out... not hard to do when you've got a high needs baby...<br><br>
I think it's worse when you've got needs too that aren't being met, I was SO exhausted when I was in my first trimester with DD and DS was 18-20 months old, thought I was going to die I was so tired... ugh
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I know its hard being pregnant while you have a high needs little one. It can be so rough! I don't have any advice, just a hug. Hang in there.
 

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Sounds like you need a break, and deserve one at that! I so relate! Is there anyone who could watch your little guy for even an hour maybe two days a week to start? I am dealing with the same issue though mine's a little older. I finally put my foot down and demanded a SCHEDULED 3 hour break once a week with DH, and I am hoping to find another sitter for another stretch on another day of the week, so I have at least TWO SCHEDULED BREAKS per week. Being a mom is a hard job, and we need time to replenish ourselves to be good mommas! You deserve it!<br><br>
I hope you can make it happen, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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Asheby has been like that also, for about 2 weeks I guess. He cries if I'm not holding him, he cries if I am holding him, he cries when he wakes up, cries when hes halfway asleep, won't play, etc... I am so overwhelmed I just don't know what to do. And I'm not pregnant! I can't imagine how I would feel if I was.<br>
I can't wait for this phase to be over.
 

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Nine months is a tough age. My little guy was a real grouch through his entire ninth month. I think it was because he was right on the verge of getting some new mobility. He knew it, and was very, very impatient about it.<br><br>
It does change. It doesn't necessarily stop, but it does change. My son is almost 11 months old now, and he's starting to play with toys more independently, which makes it easier for me to set him down when I need to. But now he's grouchy about diaper changes and really, really impatient about food. Like they say, it'll pass. At the very least, you can look forward to some variety in the coming months. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> you're not alone.
 

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Can I join? My guy isn't quite nine months (he will be on Monday), but what a nightmare. He's just grouchy and yelly throughout a good portion of the day. I so look forward to his naps where we can rock and I can read a good book. That's my "break". And I try to do something by myself every weekend.<br><br>
Book yourself a spa visit and have someone watch him while you are gone. That's what I'm doing. You deserve it!
 

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My ds is alot younger at 6 months, but I understand. DH has been deployed for about 5 weeks now and 24/7....well it is tiring. He is sooo active. We used to have somewhat of a schedule, but not lately and it is wearing on me.
 

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Being a mom can be so hard. One minute you want to sell them to the gypsies and the next snuggle them to death!<br><br>
My ds hasn't reached that stage you're in yet but I'm sure it's coming. He is gradually going from my most easy-going baby yet to getting into things and demanding so much more attention. I'm missing those 4 hour naps and playing quietly by himself in bed.<br><br>
Thank goodness my toddler is starting to settle down...slightly! I'd be truly lost without my 12yo dd.<br><br>
I don't know if you can do this but it helps me a lot when I feel a meltdown coming. I take ds into bed and I lay and read a book. He's usually pretty content to play for about an hour and I admit it often leads to a nap. For both of us! Or if you have a safer bather pillow or something lay him in the tub while you take a shower. Just some ideas.<br><br>
Hope he moves past this stage soon for you!
 

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I'm going through the same with my dd who is 9mo. I think she is going through separation anxiety, teething, and impatience over her mobility. She wants to be attatched to me whenever she is home with me yet still be mobile and getting into things so I just can't make her happy. Of course wehn she is with my mom and dh she is happy and plays. I think she is going through something sort of psychological because this is only happening with me. I think she senses that she is gaining some new independence and wants reassurance that she is still my little baby girl and that I will be there for her. Since she is used to be separated from my dh and my mom I don't think she needs as much reassurance from them because she knows they go away and always come back. I don't know I am just trying my best to comfort and assure her while still meeting my needs! Good luck, try and get some time to yourself!
 

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Blah, I feel your pain, except instead of getting time away from the 10m old DD2, it's DD1. Anyone want a whiny, dramatic, throwing herself on the floor pouting every 5 seconds while telling me I have ruined her life "for-EVER" 4.5y old? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I'll take the baby who yes is into everything, grabby, and crabby, but heck she is lots easier then the other child. I feel like I have a vacation when DH takes DD1 and it's just little baby DD2, at least she doesn't tell me I'm a big fat meanie. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm so sick of my 9 month old. He has been such a little hellion lately, and just refuses to be set down EVER unless he's sleeping. I don't remember the last time he napped for longer than 25 minutes. My house is a mess, he's begun to hate the mei tai, and he's been so crabby that I didn't even get a shower this morning.<br>
Don't get me wrong, I love him to death, I just want a b-r-e-a-k. All I've done this week is deal with him for an hour, get fed up, go find someplace to go to distract me from how much I hate dealing with this level of fussiness, then reluctantly come home, turn the tv on and wish the day away. Anyone else living with a monster???</div>
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Get a mother's helper! Find a nice teenage girl or older woman who can come over and entertain your little guy for a few hours while you nap, shower, take a long bath, or whatever. We found a wonderful young woman at our church who is the oldest of five and really knows how to entertain kids. Now that my kids are older and they know her, I feel totally comfortable leaving them with her for a couple hours here and there.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> You poor thing! It is so hard! I definitely have those days where I am just like "nobody touch me for 10 minutes!" Or mommy just wants to use the bathroom by herself! Hang in there!
 

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Oh, mama...<br>
hang in there...(you're probably so sick of hearing that). Seriously though, just a week or two ago I was where you are...my little one is FINALLY crawling (at 11 1/2 mos) and she was getting to be a real crank up until that point!!! It seemed as though she was constantly on me, and if I sat her down she cried til I got down with her... whew...<br>
Finally, I've had a moment to myself to think the last week or so, as she is finally, finally occupying herself a bit on the floor exploring. What a relief. And what the OP all said about getting a little time for yourself is GREAT advice, even if it's just to get out for a half hour walk while your husband keeps baby.<br>
Also, just try to keep things simple around home right now...cut yourself some slack on the housekeeping, fix some easy meals, and nap w/ baby if you can.<br>
I always try to think about in Ecclesiastes where it talks about there being a time and place for everything under the heavens...I try to think, this is the baby time, but it won't be forever. It is temporary and there will be a repreive....<br><br>
Praying for you..<br>
Rachael
 
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