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but, I am not feeling the baby move at all. I am 20 weeks with #3. I can't even get a kick or wiggle if I start poking. Someone tell me I am just freaking out for nothing. I don't know why but I am ultra-paranoid this pregnancy...Weird because I would've thought I would have been more easy going, "been there done that attitude" but I'm not.<br><br>
I called my mw but she left today for holiday and I am having trouble getting ahold of her back-up...UGH!<br><br>
Ok, I think I am going to eat and then lie down for awhile. I feel very worked up.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Remember it also depends on the position of your placenta. I'm pretty sure I have an anterior placenta right now, because I haven't felt any movement at 20w. An anterior placenta can make it more difficult to feel movement (and find fht). I'm not even planning to try with a feto til I'm about 25w.
 

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without an u/s, is there a way to tell where your placenta is? Our u/s isn't for 2 more weeks...<br><br>
Thanks for this though. It isn't even something I thought about...<br><br>
Ok, I really am going to lie down now!!!
 

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Same here. Little tiny fluttery bumps, but nothing firm or frequent. I keep thinking it must be location of placenta or I have a really laid back kid. (Wouldn't that be a nice switch! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> )<br><br>
I won't lie -- I feel a bit disconcerted, too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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i havent felt anything either, and im 20 weeks. this is my first though.... im not too worried though, because we saw babe swimming around on an ultrasound a few weeks ago....<br><br>
i really wish i could feel something though <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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There's no way to tell without an u/s. But you can ask your provider if he or she suspects it -- if you're doing doppler (I'm not) and it takes a few min to find the hb, could definitely be it.<br><br>
I'm not feeling particularly connected to this one yet. I don't really look preggo (just chubby LOL) I haven't felt movement, and we don't have any names. We had some but nothing I love. I do know it's a girl, but that's about it!<br><br>
Maybe if I go out and buy some stuff, I'll feel more connected <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">There's no way to tell without an u/s. But you can ask your provider if he or she suspects it -- if you're doing doppler (I'm not) and it takes a few min to find the hb, could definitely be it.<br><br>
I'm not feeling particularly connected to this one yet. I don't really look preggo (just chubby LOL) I haven't felt movement, and we don't have any names. We had some but nothing I love. I do know it's a girl, but that's about it!<br><br>
Maybe if I go out and buy some stuff, I'll feel more connected <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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I don't feel so connected this time, either! I thought I was weird and was sad about it the other night. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Glad to know I'm not alone.
 

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I am the same way. I had an ultrasound and Lilah was moving around like crazy but could i feel it? Nope not even a little. THe tech said," you know how hard it is to kick in water? Well your baby is not even a pound yet so with all the fluid and space it is hard to really pack a punch"<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I was freaking out until the ultrasound but everything turned out okay. I hope the next couple weeks fly by and your little bean wiggles a lot for you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">:
 

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I find I am really have trouble this pg letting go of my fears of something going wrong, and just enjoying being pg. I thought it would end at the end of the first trimester, but it hasn't. I am feeling one of the twins move, but not the other - though every time we check, there are two heartbeats, and there is absolutely nothing to indicate anything could possibly be wrong, so I know it is not a logical fear (is there really such a thing?) but I am still having trouble releasing it. I actually called my therapist today - I figure a couple of appointments might help me brush up on my coping skills.<br><br>
Glad to know I am not alone in this.
 

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I am right there with you... this is also my third baby. However, I am more paranoid and anxious than ever. I have also not yet felt definitive movement and have an ultrasound on monday. I saw my midwife today and she had some difficulty finding the hb so...based on what someone else said, maybe my placenta is anterior. Besides feeling anxious about not feeling the baby and not being connected to this baby yet, I am also just anxious and emotional about everything else in my life. I am tearful multiple times per day and am feeling overwhelmed alot. I know this is most likely due to hormones, being the mother of 2 other children, working, trying to keep up with the house and be a decent wife all at once... but knowing this does not solve the problem. It is nice to know that other mothers have not felt movement yet and that I am not the only one feeling a this way.<br><br>
peace,<br>
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Thanks everyone! I think part of it is not having much time to just be pregnant KWIM. It is really busy running around after 2 toddlers (they are 19 months apart). Anyhow, thanks for sharing, it really does help <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy">
 

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I've heard a glass of OJ followed by lying down in a dark quiet room often does the trick....<br><br>
To those who said they don't feel connected, I don't either. I didn't last time either. I'm not as worried about it this time like I was time, because the connection was there the second I laid eyes on her. From that second on I would have died for her.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I've heard a glass of OJ followed by lying down in a dark quiet room often does the trick....<br><br>
To those who said they don't feel connected, I don't either. I didn't last time either. I'm not as worried about it this time like I was time, because the connection was there the second I laid eyes on her. From that second on I would have died for her.</div>
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Yeah, I know it'll be be the same for me, too. I was just so *connected* w/ Max when I was pregnant with him. Even Rachel, to a degree, although I was horribly depressed with her and had a hard time getting a deeper bond for a few of years after her birth.
 

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i have an anterior placenta, and its been very hard to feel connected to my baby when I hardly feel it. It is getting better now, at 19 weeks, Im feeling some strong kicks now. But I totally know what you mean!
 

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it's funny right? because a another couple months we'll be complaining about the intrauterine gymnastics competitions our babies insist on having in the middle of the night!<br><br>
I find myself more worried this time too. I didn't want children, ever, when i got pregnant with dd. I wasn't really happy about it at all, for most of my pregnancy. I thought that I had made a terrible decision, and that I would resent her and be a terrible mother. After she was born, I discovered that I love being a mom and dig having babies!(until they turn 3, anyway <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">) This time we made the descision to conceive this baby, I want it. I think part of me is afraid that because I didn't want dd and I thought so many awful things, that something bad is going to happen this time. It's hard to let go of that kind of stuff. I can't have a HB, because of the laws here, but I still wanted to keep my birth as low tech as possible. I haven't had any tests and I don't want to have a u/s. But that part that worries tells me to just do that 1 and make sure everything seems okay. It's like this tug of war with my belief in the sanctity of birth and my genetic predisposition toward superstition(otherwise known as my Puerto Rican side.) Ah yes, I've probably said enough...another time, another thread.
 
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