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if you are having a girl or a boy until she or he is in your arms?<br><br>
I liked what one lady said in my last DDC, "I prefer to look at baby's face before I check out the genitals."<br><br>
I also like being a smart @ss when people ask me when I am further along, "Oh, do you know what you're having?" "Yeah! A baby!" and them getting all flustered and then explaining what they ment like I didn't understand their question.<br><br>
I intuited that 1 was a boy, & 2 was a girl, and was clueless for 3. I am, err WE are, hoping a for girl this time and I am having "girl" dreams already.<br><br>
I normally am impatient and cannot stand surprises, but when it comes to my babies, I love waiting.
 

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We're not planning on finding out ahead of time either. We did last time, so this time we'll do it the other way. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
One thing I'm not sure about is how to go about the ultrasound. I do think we will have one around 20w, and I'm going to want to watch. If I do that, I'm going to be <i>looking</i>. I guess I can ask the tech to tell me when to look or look away when it might be showing? I know it's not always obvious, especially to the untrained eye, but I just don't want to see it at all.
 

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We did not find out last time, and it was so much fun not knowing. I LOVED that moment when I looked down and saw that SHE was HERE and a GIRL. I totally want that moment again.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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We had 3 ultrasounds where we could have found out. At the first one, we made it really clear that we did not want to know, and she asked us if we wanted to look away while she does the hip and leg measurements, but we were clueless so we looked and guessed and it was fine and silly. This time, I'll probably look away b/c I've seen enough ultrasounds now to do an educated guess. DH can read the "tea leaves" so to speak. Just tell them to warn you when to look away, but you probably won't get more than a guess anyway. Remember to remind your OB/MW at the first appointment post-20 week ultrasound that you don't want to know--just in case they screwed up and put it on the report (happened to a friend of mine). At the second ultrasound at 34 weeks, the OB was the one doing it (checking for position), and he said, "Okay. *I* know, now do you want me to share?" And we laughed, and we assumed it must be a boy if it was that darn obvious. But we said, "No, don't tell!" We should have made it a littler clearer to him (not our regular doc) that we REALLY wanted a surprise. But we analyzed the video and couldn't make heads or tails :p At the third ultrasound, I told the tech "I've made it Forty-freaking-one weeks without knowing, so don't even think of ruining our surprise." She asked if I wanted to look way at one point, so I did.
 

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ME! ME! ME! It will be our first official surprise since we found out with the others and "accidentally" saw with the last one. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> I've attended many surprise births and they are my favorite. I cannot wait to have one of my own. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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We haven't found out with any of our's, and won't be this time either. I have only ever had one ultrasound, at 41 weeks with my first, and we told them what another poster said- "I've waited this long, so don't tell me!" I don't believe in ultrasound use for seeing the gender of the baby. Just seems like a waste of technology (and a questionable one too in terms of safety) and the ruin of a good surprise! Sometimes people know the gender and name the baby before they are born, and when they are born it doesn't feel like such a huge deal when they call and tell you, like you already knew him/her already for some time!<br><br>
I do, however, always wish I just knew intuitively. I always think I'm having a girl. This baby was concieved with 4 day old sperm so I'm hoping that indeed it will be a girl. My daughter is lonely for another girl with three brothers and two baby boy cousins.
 

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With dd we didn't want to know, but I was having girl vibes all through my pg. It was a neat surprise at birth. This time around though, I want to be able to plan better. If we're expecting a girl, then I'll keep a lot of dd's girl stuff that can be used later, otherwise we need to gear up with boy stuff. And I'm not getting any vibes yet as to what it's going to be. I'm just relieved it's not twins.
 

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Yup, we're not finding out either. A lot of our friends and family members have found out, picked the name and as a PP said, when the baby was born it was just like "Well, "Name" is here." And it was great but it wasn't a big deal or very exciting, you know? We like surprises and I think it'll be great for DH to be able to announce the sex when baby is born.<br><br>
Another reason why we're not finding out early is because we both REALLY want a boy and I think if we find out early and it's a girl I'll feel guilty about feeling the twinge of disappointment that I know we'll feel. But if we find out it's a girl when the baby is born, I think we'll just be so excited and happy that baby is actually here that we'll never experience that tiny bit of disappointment.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yup, we're not finding out either. A lot of our friends and family members have found out, picked the name and as a PP said, <b>when the baby was born it was just like "Well, "Name" is here." And it was great but it wasn't a big deal or very exciting,</b> you know? We like surprises and I think it'll be great for DH to be able to announce the sex when baby is born.<br><br>
Another reason why we're not finding out early is because we both REALLY want a boy and I think if we find out early and it's a girl I'll feel guilty about feeling the twinge of disappointment that I know we'll feel. But if we find out it's a girl when the baby is born, I think we'll just be so excited and happy that baby is actually here that we'll never experience that tiny bit of disappointment.</div>
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It was just the opposite for us. We found out and picked his name. From then on, I talked to him by name (knowing babies can hear). When he was born, I bawled because I was so happy to finally have him there. It was very exciting and a huge deal. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><br><br>
We will find out again this time for the same reasons.
 

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Me too, me too<br>
I love the surprise, absolutely love it, and meeting my baby before I know it's sex and name. I don't need a pink or blue nursery (baby will sleep with us first and then share a room with older sister or brother. And we have clothes from both kids so I have no need to prepare with the right colors (which are mostly mix gender anyway).<br><br>
We'll have a list of maybe 10 names, 5 of each but won't even try to narrow it down till baby is here and if baby waits a few days for a name that's fine. My brother took 15 days to name his daughter lol!<br><br>
That said I can't seem to use any other pronoun than she when referring to baby. I'll have to come up with a name to use until I meet "her". My first two were bean and pumpkin while pregnant!<br><br>
My only problem is I really want a brother for my son and a sister for my daughter - and this is definitely our last, and not twins.
 

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We'll be surprised, as we were with DD. It's funny...with DD, everyone - including me - thought I was having a boy. However, whenever I visualized holding my baby (during hypnobabies prep), it was always a girl!<br><br>
We figure, it's just the first in a long, long, long line of surprises...why bother! It's fun just to meet the whole baby, all at once.
 

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<span style="color:#000000;"><span style="font-family:Verdana;">We have a boy and a girl so we want this one to be a surprise. I agree with PP about how nice it is to be able to call baby by "its name" as we did with our last two. It was fabulous to finally see “Chase” and then “Tagen” after months of anticipation. However, we feel there are to few surprises in life and we just don’t want to pass this one up and we are also ok with calling baby “baby” until s/he is born. As far as the ultrasound goes, you better bet I am going to watch the whole thing, it’s not everyday you get a glimpse of your developing baby in your womb. If I happen to see a peebird or whatnot then I suppose it was meant for me to know but I won’t be ruining it for anyone else!</span></span>
 

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surprise here, just like with DD.<br><br>
there are so few real surprises in life. we love the anticipation and picking out two names. we have our 20 week ultrasound and just ask the tech to not tell us. they ask us to look away for two minutes, and it's all good.
 

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Our DD was a surprise (and she didn't come for 43 weeks, so we had to be pretty patient!). This one will be a surprise, too. I like it this way. I'm having "inklings" that it'll be a boy though. No dreams yet. With DD I had both boy and girl dreams (though one more girl dream than boy dream, if that matters).<br><br>
We like the surprise. I did have a coworker the first time who found out we weren't finding out the gender who said, "How can you do that to us?!" Um... easily...<br><br>
But once at a store, an employee asked the gender and I said, "We aren't finding out," and another couple was nearby us and the wife turned to her husband and said, "See! Other people do it too!" LOL
 

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We're not finding out the gender.<br><br>
It's funny, because it was DH's idea to let it be a surprise, I'd never really thought about that as a possibility. Everyone I know has found out what they are having. I guess on that issue, I had never thought "outside the box".<br><br>
I love the idea of a surprise!
 

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We're not finding out either, plus we're not getting any ultrasounds so really, we don't have a choice but either way I wouldn't want to find out (but of course I'm curious). What an exciting surprise!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It was just the opposite for us. We found out and picked his name. From then on, I talked to him by name (knowing babies can hear). <b>When he was born, I bawled because I was so happy to finally have him there. It was very exciting and a huge deal</b>. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><br><br>
We will find out again this time for the same reasons.</div>
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Same for us! I "knew" it was a girl in my first trimester and sure enough it was! We will for sure find out this time. I know alot of people feel that they want the "surprise" but for me labor and delivery with everything that can go crazy and wrong is a huge enough surprise for me, thank you very much! I enjoy knowing as well. It just makes everything more "real".<br>
I do not think we will tell any family if its a girl or boy so that they can be surprised...hehe...yes evil but our cousins did that and we all had so much fun talking and guessing! Plus since we have only had a girl all we own are pink and purple...so if it turned out to be a boy we would need to find other colors!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">We will for sure find out this time.</div>
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We are also in the find out as soon as possible camp. We found out with my DD and I look forward to finding out again.<br><br>
It's weird, b/c while I can totally make an argument for waiting (avoid all of the gender specific gifts that come with knowing early), and have no good argument for finding out early, I still really want to know.<br><br>
I think it's so fun for other people to wait, I love to hear the surprise of friends giving birth w/o knowing ahead of time, I just can't seem to make it work in my head for me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">
 

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We are going to be surprised too! I love it! isn't it funny how it drives everyone crazy? cracks me up.<br><br>
We were surprised with dd, even though we had 10 or more ultrasounds, some 3d (she had placenta/cord problems). We just told the tech we didn't want to know. I had a lot of girl dreams, too.
 

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This is our forth pregnancy and we didn't find out with any of them. This time won't be any different. It is just TOO much fun to announce what the baby is myself!!!
 

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I don't like surprises --not for myself, anyway-- so we will find out. I love it when others wait, but I can't do it. I already know it's another girl, anyway <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 
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