[Mommy2Teagan]

I am all for breastfeeding DD for the minimum two year recommendation. I couldn't see myself not doing it. I am extremely firm in my decision and nothing can change my mind. With that being said.....why is it sooooo hard to say it outloud!! I am in no way ashamed, in fact I'm proud. But today there was a lady who was completely shocked that I was *still* BFing my 8 month old.....yeah, 8 month old. In my mind I was screaming "yup, I'm still breastfeeding and I'm going to do it until she's two if not longer". Buuuuuuuut my mouth said differently. I very timidly said "yes, ma'am I'm still breastfeeding. I'll probably stop soon though." WHAT?? I didn't mean it so why did I say it??? I worry way too much about what other people will think about me and it drives me nuts. I need confidence!!

 

[debsdancer]

I don't really have much advice except maybe just smile and nod. You don't have to say anything... or come up with a line you can use under any circumstances, like "she's so happy!" or something... I know the feeling of surprising yourself with what comes out of your own mouth. I got more confident (stopped caring what others thought or said) the further along we got. That may or may not happen for you- just keep doing what you want, and you'll be fine.

 

[lach]

I don't think that anyone I know would call me a meek person, or someone who doesn't stand up for what they believe in. But I have all sorts of plans and opinions that are no one else's business and I just don't want to engage in a discussion about it.

I also planned to BF for 2 years (DD self-weaned at 15mo, I assume because she didn't like my pregnancy BM), and I probably would have done the same thing as you. What would have been the result if you had said "I plan to go two years"? Pretty much the exact same thing as did happen. She thought it was a little odd and went on with her life. So why waste your breath?

I don't know, I also don't like to air plans. I'm happy to talk about and stick up for what I'm doing at the time, but I always hate to be wrong, so I never talk about plans to do something unconventional in case I turn out to not do it and then everyone says "see? We said it was crazy."

 

[Juvysen]

I usually respond with the APA recommendation of AT LEAST a year. People listen if it's doctors saying it. That said, I frequently ignore the APA recommendations on things, so it's just an easy out that makes them think that it's not because I'm some crazy pervert or something.

 

[brendaziz]

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Originally Posted by Mommy2Teagan I am all for breastfeeding DD for the minimum two year recommendation. I couldn't see myself not doing it. I am extremely firm in my decision and nothing can change my mind. With that being said.....why is it sooooo hard to say it outloud!! I am in no way ashamed, in fact I'm proud. But today there was a lady who was completely shocked that I was *still* BFing my 8 month old.....yeah, 8 month old. In my mind I was screaming "yup, I'm still breastfeeding and I'm going to do it until she's two if not longer". Buuuuuuuut my mouth said differently. I very timidly said "yes, ma'am I'm still breastfeeding. I'll probably stop soon though." WHAT?? I didn't mean it so why did I say it??? I worry way too much about what other people will think about me and it drives me nuts. I need confidence!!

Aww- I'm sorry. I've done that same sort of thing w/ other topics b4- totally backed down and then thought "what is the matter w/ me!"

I feel for ya