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We have the crib side-carred to the bed, and DD (6 months old) starts out there every night. I should say, she used to sleep throught the nights until she was 3 months old, and I went back to work. She did this all by herself, no "sleep-training". Well, now she usually goes down about 8.30pm, and wakes about 12.30, then I bring her to bed with us. She would nurse, and go back to sleep until about 7. SOMETIMES she would wake, and nurse another time. Well, lately, whe is waking up every 2 hours, and it is driving me insane! She is in bed with us, and keeps ME up all night long, with her squirming, waking and nursing, or fussing. We have a king bed, and DH usually sleeps through all of this. What I would really like is for her to learn to sleep most of the night in her crib, and maybe join us in the morning. I bought NCSS, but am usually too tired at the times she wake up to do any of the things in the book, I give up and just bring her to bed to nurse. I know I am setting DD up to wake all night whenever she wants, but I don't know what to do. Will she ever learn on her own to sleep longer stretches, or will I have to bite the bullet, and put into place the things I read about in NCSS? Any advice will be much appreciated! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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My DD is 7 and a half months and she still wakes 1-3 times a night to nurse. She sleeps with us all night. Do you nurse laying down? It really helps. I barely notice and we all sleep good. If I had to sit up to nurse her I would never be able to function. Good luck!
 

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I do nurse her lying down, and it was going beautifully, until recently! Now she fidgets and squirms all night, and wakes up a lot, and not even to nurse! I am wondering if she hears DH snore, and it wakes her more since she is in bed with us. I don't want her in her own room -yet! As I said, I would really like to have her in her sidecarred crib, still sleeping with us, but for a longer stretch at night. Oh well! This is such a short time in our lives, right???? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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FWIW, I was having the exact same problem...turns out it was a food allergy/reaction keeping her up at night.<br><br>
Carrots. Go figure. They were one of her favorite first foods, but they started to cause problems around the 6.5 month mark.<br><br>
Just make sure you consider the real source of the problem...and don't think you've done anything to "ruin" her good sleep habits. If it is a food allergy, their poor little tummies are so bothersome they need all the nighttime love they can get.<br><br>
Just a thought.
 

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It could be a growth spurt. My 5mo baby has been doing the exact same thing lately-- we use a co-sleeper. I've made an effort to make sure that I put her back into the co-sleeper when she is done nursing or else we spend the next hour squirming and latching on and off and no one gets any sleep. If I can get her back in the co-sleeper, she sleeps much more soundly. I ease her in while still latched on and then gently pull her off, keeping my hand on her back while she falls back to sleep (she sleeps on her side facing me).<br><br>
Is she gassy? If so, I would look into the possiblity of food intolerances, too. My 2yo has major issues with a variety of foods, and this is how it started for him. Based on the fact that if I can stay awake long enough I can get my dd back to sleep, I don't think it is the same thing.
 

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My little guy went through a stage like this and I posted just like you... HELP!!!! I need sleep....<br>
Come to find out it was several things.....<br>
1. the dogs where in the bed.. and every time they moved it woke him up....<br>
2. When my husband is restless it wakes all of us... even in the Kg<br>
3. Baby was teething hard....<br><br>
The way I found this out was by eliminating the problems and then work forward....<br>
First the doggies had to sleep off the bed<br>
then we bought a bed to put next to our bed for my husband<br>
Amazing..... the baby slept better... Which meant I did too....<br>
For 1 month I watched his habits..... most of the time he nurses for 3-4 times per night... He is 12mos....<br>
when teething he nurses more and is restless....No matter what<br><br>
Now my husband is back in the bed and one dog without collar (it jingled)... We are all doing great....<br><br>
It takes time but you have to be patient.<br>
Hope it was helpful....
 

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I went through the exact same thing with my DD when she was that age. She had been sleeping through the night for a very long time, and then all of a sudden started waking several times a night and she became a very restless sleeper -- to the point where I was getting almost zero sleep because she wouldn't stop squirming at night.<br><br>
It was right around that time that she hit a few milestones -- crawling, pulling up, and "talking". Eventually, the nightwakings decreased and she started sleeping more soundly. She's cut back to only waking once at night (and some nights she doesn't wake at all), and she's stopped being so restless.<br><br>
I would definitely see if there's anything that you might need to cut out of her diet, or check for other things that might be keeping her awake like the other ladies suggested, and I'm also thinking that if you give it a lack of time, the problem will probably be resolved. Good luck, I hope you get some much deserved rest very soon!
 

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Thanks everyone! Last night went a lot better. I actually fell asleep nursing her in bed at about 9pm. At midnight, I woke up, and she was fast asleep, and I moved her to the crib. Normally she would have woken me up by now to nurse, and fidget, but she did not. At 3am she did wake up. I tried for about 10 mins to just pat her, and put the binky in her mouth, but she started to cry instead of fuss, so I rolled onto my side and nursed her. She was still in her crib when I did this, and after 2 minutes, she knocked out. I rolled her onto her back in the crib, and we both slept until 7.15am! I will try to do the same tonight, but transition her into her crib earlier (!!!) Nursing is so relaxing at night, I almost always fall asleep doing it, which is why she is so used to our bed! Also, I am realizing from your posts, that she will fall into a schedule more or less on her own, and I am not going to try to force it, other than having her become more used to her crib. Thanks for all your input! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/kiss.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="kiss">
 

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The answer is yes, she will learn to sleep longer.<br><br>
This could very well be a phase. DD went through phases of strange sleep patterns that rarely lasted longer than a week or two, otherwise she was pretty consistent.<br><br>
Personally, I'm not comfortable with any sort of nightweaning at that age (6 months).<br><br>
I'm wondering if this is related to you being at work? Sometimes babies wake more at night to make up for missing time with you in the day.<br><br>
That's all I can think of for now...toddler is bugging me! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I'm in a similar boat, for me the thing was going back to work, dd slept great until 3 months, waking once maybe twice a night, then I went back to work and she started nursing all night. It it a real nightmare, I'm so tired. I try to remember that she needs her mommy time. It helps a bit, but I'm just real tired.
 

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Yes, that's about when I discovered that ds sleeps better in his own bed. If it's just me and ds in the bed, that works. But all three of us...there is not enough room and we wake each other up and no one gets much sleep. So ds sleeps in his crib and gets up 1 - 3 times a night to nurse. If I had a side-car or room for the crib in our room, I would do that. I can see him from where I am in bed, and he is close enough that I can hear him breathing. I must say, it's nice not to have to roll over and nurse every 1 or 2 hours all night.
 
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