[idaismyname]

Hi
I was with a group of parents recently at a soccer game.
They were all talking about how they just don't enjoy their kids as much once they're past that 5 year old mark.
They were saying that they're pains, not as cute, not as fun.
The kids were all listening.
I thought what the hell!
I love the childhood age.
They can have real conversations with you, they are developing into their own little person, I think they are at a wonderful age.
I thought it was so sad that the other parents weren't recognizing that.

 

[lisamarie]

Hey, I love and adore my 7 yo too! Its so exciting to watch them learn (STILL!) And the great, in depth conversations are wonderful. They are emerging and growing into such great people. How hurtful of those people to say!

warmly-

lisa:bf

 

[mamaduck]

I agree. I love my 7 yo. for purely selfish reasons. He can do more for himself, he relates to me because he wants to and not because he depends on me, and so we are developing a real friendship now that wasn't possible when he was smaller. We can play board games together!!! Which I love. And work puzzles. And work on projects together where we both contribute. We are having fun!

 

[amma]

My spirited guy is only 4 1/2, i'm excited on his growth coming up on his years. I'm of course loving/charishing the present time I have with him. It will be a blast, I love kids who talk alot, get bored easily, it keeps me on my toes. I hate to see kids being ignored by their parents at any age. When a child talks we should all listen and love to listen. I know, sometimes, they can go on and on; like an energizer bunny. And alot of the times, its what seems to us, tiny things. Which just could mean their bored or need some special guidance on the certain situation going on in the life. This is just my experience with the age group. Anyways just wanted to butt in. I was upset about the parents whom didn't seem to like their kids past the age of five. That's pissy luck for any kids to have in the minds of their parents.

 

[mamaduck]

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Originally posted by idaismyname They were all talking about how they just don't enjoy their kids as much once they're past that 5 year old mark. They were saying that they're pains, not as cute, not as fun. The kids were all listening. I thought what the hell!

Just wanted to come back and respond to this. I think most parents have certain ages they enjoy more than other ages, and it can be validating to share and find out that you aren't the only one to have these feelings. HOWEVER, it was completely unacceptable for this conversation to be going on with the kids listening in!!!! I agree with you.... what the hell??? Do they not think their kids are human beings with feelings, or what? How disrespectful and awful!

 

[amma]

I had to reply again, too. When I read the thread, It brought back some old memories of my mom saying stuff like that to her friends and my parents never listening to me. I was a little emotional about the statements the parents had said. I understand, mamaduck, validating shared emotions since, I have a 4 1/2 year old ds; which at times, I wish he was a baby again or a 7 years old. I can't beleive the parents said all that stuff in front of the children!

 

[journeymom]

Yup, in agreement here, they never should have said that infront of their kids.

That's a big "duh!"

I'm finding it easier to love/like my dd every day. She's 8 y.o. I'm reading some of my favorite books to her. I love being able to play Jr. Monopoly with her! We learned how to play chess together. She made her own scrambled eggs this morning, after I taught her a few weeks ago. She's getting quite the funny sense of humor. Generally she's great to be around.

It's my privledge to be her mother. I don't always act that way. Some of the time I act like she's my ball and chain.

: But not so much anymore, since I had to do a lot of growing up when she was born.