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My grandmother sent along through my mother a set of glass salad bowls that she claims I always liked. 4 small and one big. I can't even remember ever setting eyes on them! (This is the exact one - <a href="http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=170116919815" target="_blank">http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll...m=170116919815</a>) I have zero use for this item!<br><br>
I did accidentally knock the box off the place it was resting and broke one already, so one down I guess!<br><br>
My grandmother is in this phase of life where she feels she needs to give stuff away, making us all feel guilty that we don't want it! She's really sweet, and I love her for it, but I kinda wish she'd just keep it for now, so I don't have to feel so bad getting rid of it!
 

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DH's grandma has been at this stage ever since I've known them. She is constantly giving us things that are "special". But when I ask DH about it he just shrugs and never recognizes anything or claims they're not really special. I feel so guilty for getting rid of these things because I usually have absolutely no use for them and I usually think they're hideous. A few years ago I accidentally (I swear it was an accident) broke a 3 foot high Christmas decoration she had made for DH using Christmas lights and baby food jars from when DH had been a baby that she had kept for over 30 years!<br><br>
It's hard with the sentimental stuff. If you want, keep them for a while until you're so sick of looking at them you end up selling them on eBay. Probably not the best advice but that's what I usually end up doing and I feel so much better once I get rid of it.
 

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Old people are allowed to declutter too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> Next time you see your grandma, why don't you tell her about flylady and your decluttering? Maybe get her on board too?
 

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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">I accidentally (I swear it was an accident) broke a 3 foot high Christmas decoration she had made for DH using Christmas lights and baby food jars from when DH had been a baby that she had kept for over 30 years!</td>
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Oh, c'mon. You guys don't have to lie on MDC. We're not gonna tell anyone. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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Your grandma gave the salad bowls to you. Now they're yours to do with as you see fit. You have the right to give them away if you don't want them.<br><br>
There's absolutely no reason to feel guilty about giving away your own stuff!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Your grandma gave the salad bowls to you. Now they're yours to do with as you see fit. You have the right to give them away if you don't want them.<br><br>
There's absolutely no reason to feel guilty about giving away your own stuff!</div>
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Oh I know, I give away most of what she gives me. I just wish she wouldn't so I wouldn't have to deal with it all the time!
 

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My MIL does this. DH is the only one of their children they deem to have a "normal" family life, so we get all of the old stuff since we're the only ones they think can appreciate it. My husband is the least sentimental person ever, so he usually says, "toss it." I keep some things, depending on if I see them as valuable. For example, MIL cross-stitched a Scottish poem (their family ancestry) when her kids were little. I kept that because she put a lot of work into it. I also kept DH's "baby's first Christmas" ornament. They're in a box of sentimental stuff in my basement.<br><br>
I toss anything that's broken. She gave me some little Christmas tree that she put in DH's bedroom when he was little. Half the stuff didn't work or was broken, so I tossed it. I didn't feel badly about it at all. We've actually asked her (took a while to work up the nerve) not to give us anything that no longer works or "just" needs a little repair. We don't have the time/energy/space for it, and usually it seems to cost us more money and aggravation than if we'd just bought a new one.<br><br>
MIL also buy figurines for us, and those go out immediately. My husband actually throws them in the trash as soon as she leaves. I don't feel bad because 1) everyone who knows me knows that I like clear spaces and HATE figurines and 2) they're usually from the Dollar Tree or she got them free (gifts from kids at school), so she's not out much if we get rid of them.<br><br>
DH's grandfather also has started giving us thing. He's 90, so he's clearing out his house. DH is actually pretty happy because it's mostly his collection of power tools. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> They go downstairs and are saving us money since they're things we'd buy eventually.
 

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Oh! When we bought our house (It belonged to my g-ma and my g-pa had built it when they were first married) she had 50 years worth of *stuff* in it. So after she got all set up in her new house next door, we arrived in our moving truck in the middle of the night. It still had a bunch of stuff in various piles around the house. My g-ma had figured that because *I* bought the house, and being the *favorite* grandchild, I would appreciate and love all the *wonderful* things she had left behind (Because SHE didnt have any use for them and no one in the fami.y wanted them!)<br><br>
Needless to say, after cherry picking a few things I actually did want, the rest went to Goodwill or the dump on the sly.<br><br>
2 years later she STILL will ask, have you seen *some obscure item* I think I left it in the basement on a shelf.<br><br>
Argh! We arent a freakin self storage unit! Gotta love family!!
 
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