[Melly24]

When my DD was little up until she was about 5 months old she was super easy. She barely cried, was happy with anyone, would go to sleep from awake alone in her crib etc etc. I of course felt very smug with myself and put it down to my amazing parenting...

Well now...she doesnt want anyone but me (mostly), especially if I am in the room, she cant go to sleep at all without touching me, she wakes several times during the night (we cosleep), she basically NEEDS me more as she gets older.

Now I'm not complaining. I'm glad she needs me the way she does. Its just...it was so much easier when she was little. And I made her the way she is now. But its all for the greater good, yes? Please reassure me..its hard to make sense of it all when I'm tired...

 

[MissRubyandKen]

She's old enough to appreciate you now momma

. Sounds like my dd, who is 9 months now. This is my third so I know to hold her close and breath her in while this special closeness lasts. Pretty soon she'll take her first steps, then be off and running, yk? Sounds like you're doing a great job and your dd is very attached and bonded to you.

 

[HappiLeigh]

Saying you "made" her this way makes it sound negative.

At five months she was at an age where she had no stranger anxiety. At her current stage, it's developmentally appropriate for her to prefer mama. You are a good mama for meeting her needs!

 

[accountclosed2]

Stranger anxiety and separation anxiety is totally normal at her age - you didn't cause it, it is normal in "mainstream" families too!

 

[alegna]

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Originally Posted by AislinCarys Stranger anxiety and separation anxiety is totally normal at her age - you didn't cause it, it is normal in "mainstream" families too!

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you didn't do this....

Just normal development.

-Angela

 

[operamommy]

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Originally Posted by AislinCarys Stranger anxiety and separation anxiety is totally normal at her age - you didn't cause it, it is normal in "mainstream" families too!

Yep! My ds3 is a February '08 baby too, and he's going through EXACTLY the same thing you're describing. He cries whenever I leave the room, etc. Hang tight, mama - it will pass!

 

[shanniesue2]

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Originally Posted by Melly24 When my DD was little up until she was about 5 months old she was super easy. She barely cried, was happy with anyone, would go to sleep from awake alone in her crib etc etc. I of course felt very smug with myself and put it down to my amazing parenting... Well now...she doesnt want anyone but me (mostly), especially if I am in the room, she cant go to sleep at all without touching me, she wakes several times during the night (we cosleep), she basically NEEDS me more as she gets older. Now I'm not complaining. I'm glad she needs me the way she does. Its just...it was so much easier when she was little. And I made her the way she is now. But its all for the greater good, yes? Please reassure me..its hard to make sense of it all when I'm tired...

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Originally Posted by operamommy Yep! My ds3 is a February '08 baby too, and he's going through EXACTLY the same thing you're describing. He cries whenever I leave the room, etc. Hang tight, mama - it will pass!

Me too! Me too! (not that I'm terribly excited about it, just excited to know I'm no alone). Sometimes I really wish that someone else was able to soothe DS... but nope... when he's upset, it has to be mama. If I hand him over to daddy, he fusses. Grandma, he fusses. He's shy around strangers for the first time EVER. Cries when I leave him at daycare for the first time ever. The only person that he'll go to willingly other than me right now is his grandpa (but grandpa is very very special). DH keeps making these comments about how DS doesn't like him

 

[anj7]

All mine were like that, my youngest is a March '08 baby and many times won't let anyone else hold her and sometimes needs to be touching me even if we're sitting on the floor together. It's a totally normal phase.

 

[KristyDi]

My March 08 baby is doing the same things. She'll let others hold her for a bit in the right mood, but she always keeps track on where I am in the room and cries if I leave or she can't find me.

 

[echoecho1528]

Thank you, thank you, thank you for writing about this! I feel the exact same way about my DD. She is doing all of the above, and was just like yours until about 4 months. And... it looks like our LOs have the same birthday! Maybe it is something about the date??!!

 

[tjjazzy]

my son took until he was over 2 years old to suddenly become attached to me. we took a while to bond. you just never know.