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Every year, my inlaws get two huge smoked turkeys for Thanksgiving. (13 children plus grandchildren and spouses) and every year I take away the carcasses and make smoked turkey stock with them. This stock is amazing and delicious and I use it until at least March.

So, yesterday, I pulled the carcasses out of the freezer, boiled them up in three big pots, sorted through for useable meat and strained the stock into a GIANT stainless steel bowl to cool. This took a good portion of the day!

I had planned to pressure can it today and have it waiting, yummy and delicious in the pantry.
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My dh (who is a wonderful man...just an absolute dolt in the kitchen) was doing the dishes after dinner. I said to him, pointing to the stock, "This is the turkey stock. It's too hot to deal with right now, but I'll deal with it in a little bit."

Apparently he didn't hear me. I was sitting on the couch when he peeks in from the kitchen with a worried look on his face holding an EMPTY, CLEAN stainless bowl. "Was I not supposed to pour that out?"



Every year I look forward to cooking with that stock and it makes me feel good that the turkey bits don't go to waste after the big family meal.

At least dh didn't throw out the curried pumpkin, coconut soup that we had for dinner!

He was appropriately contrite and I have forgiven him, but I still may cry.
 

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Acck!! That is something my DH would do!!!!!
I'm sorry. If it's any consolation I may have destroyed my entire batch of turkey soup with a funky onion. I am not sure, but it stunk up the fridge and freezer after I made it. I am keeping my fingers crossed, but I keep thinking "All that WORK for nothing!!"
I feel your pain!!
 

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Well I think it was very sweet that he was doing the dishes
so that act seems to wash out the bonehead move, imo

But I'm sorry about your turkey stock.
 

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My Dh did something similar, with something equally precious to me.

I was gathering enough rosehips to make jam one fall. I had one friend who always understood the lengths I was willing to go to to make things from scratch. He took me on drives to roadsides to collect rosehips along the shore. I was putting it through a food mill as I got it, until I had enough. This was an enormous amount of work and took days upon days. I had planned to gift my friend with this jam, as he was leaving the province to live elsewhere.

Dh decided to clean out the fridge. Probably for the first time in his life. He thought the jam-to-be was old tomato sauce and threw it out.

Absolutely hearbreaking. I think it takes a while to get over this and it really isn't about forgiveness. It just sucks so hard. I'm so sorry.
 

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My dh did something like this on Thanksgiving. I was going to stuff the turkey with celery stalks so I had a bunch sitting out, complete with leaves. I go to the store, and when I came back, he had thrown them all away.
His rationale was that since he'd seen me chopping celery already for the stuffing, he figured the stuff I left out were scraps. Uh, perfectly good, green, celery? When we had a maid in dh's home country, she never threw out anything and used every scrap of vegetable there was so he knew better! It was one of those things that just didn't make sense, like your dh not knowing any with the broth despite knowing you are a resourceful cook.
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DH is great about the dishes. I must admit that I am married to a treasure of a guy in the cleaning-up department.

He just doesn't know his butt from a persimmon in the kitchen. He only prepares food that can be made in the toaster. Not the toaster oven, mind you...the toaster.

Like I said, he felt awful and I have forgiven him, but I am still pining a little for smoked turkey stock. Sigh!
 

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Is it surprising that a man would clean? Most I know do.

I did something myself that was simliar. I made a stock, then strained it into the sink. Yes, poured it into the strainer into the sink. I imagine it's easier to deal since I did it myself, instead of someone else having done it.

Sorry
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Oh that sucks! My DH often do dishes, too. Once he dumped a full pot of my herbal infusions sitting on the stove. He said it smelled funny and there's lots of bits in it.
I couldn't believe him. This is a man who drinks herbal tea often and uses some of my herbal concoctions. Must be a brainless moment. From then on he never touched pots that are not empty. Maybe give your DH the same guideline - if it's not empty, leave it there.
 
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