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I'm only 7 weeks, but I've known since the day after Thanksgiving - long enough to get excited!

This is the email I sent to my mom:

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Hi Mom,

Last night I had a strange dream that I gave birth with no pain to a baby who disappeard right after it was delivered, and I never saw it. This afternoon I went to the bathroom and a bunch of blood clots came out of me. I talked to a midwife and I'm sure that it is over. I could go to the doctor to make sure (which I probably will) but I know in my heart that I am no longer pregnant.

It was a strange pregnancy so far, anyway. I never even felt pregnant, except for hunger (but I am always hungry!).

This evening was DH's office Christmas party. I was bleeding right before we left. I decided that we could still go mainly because I know his coworker's wife is a midwife and would probably be there. So we went and I talked to her and that is how I concluded the loss. Then I went to the bathroom, saw more blood, and said "DH, it's time to go."

We're both sad, but you know what? We may never have known I was pregnant if it weren't for early pregnancy tests (I took another one today, by the way, and it was positive - but that only means that I was pregnant and the hormones are still in me.) And DH reminded me that I was just starting to have a more workable routine and better sleep and maybe it was too soon to get pregnant again, and it would all work out in the end.

I am sad but I'm starting to look forward - even though it just happened a few hours ago. I understand that this is very common in the first trimester, but that is only information to explain it, not information that will help me feel better.

Well, I feel a little better now - I just hope I don't get a lot of impersonal or insensitive comments from all of the people I told (I didn't tell everyone, but I told quite a few more than I should have).

Love,
Adrianne

p.s. tomorrow (Saturday) we are going to a Choo Choo Train birthday party - we will be riding on a train for a couple of hours in the caboose party room. On Sunday we will go to church and to the annual Christmas nativity/carols service. So we won't be around much this weekend, but I don't really feel like talking about this right now anyway. I love you.
 

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Awww, hon. Im so sorry for your loss.
regardless of how far along you were, you still feel the heavy loss in your heart. Take care of you, PLEASE rest & get some red rasperry leaf tea. STay home as much as possible & relax. And you have every right to mourn this loss. Dont forget that either!!


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Mama,



Thinking of you.



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i went through this same situation a few days ago.. let yourself grieve, its okay to be sad.
 

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So sorry. It sucks, doesn't it?

It happened to me September 24 this year. I was only nine weeks along, but enough to get excited and dreamy.

I am sending you a huge hug. If you lived nearby we could have tea and cry together.
 
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