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Co-sleeping is best for us right now. My youngest(19mos) nurses at night and my oldest (4yo) has always been *very* attached, so trying to force them to sleep on their own (even if together) would mean tons of tears and fights. I'm not willing to do that to any of us. Plus DH is not home at bed time, so it's just me.<br><br>
However.... DH can't stand sleeping with the kids, so I sleep in the girls' room with them. And I really miss him! It's probably been a year since we actually spent the night in the same bed.<br><br>
I'd love to hear that there are others out there who have survived this, or simply who are also going through this.
 

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Well, I'm not exactly in the same boat as you, since DH and I are in bed together with the 2 kids, but....we do fantasize about the day WAY in the future when it's just DH and I again for most of the time in our bed. We're thinking that will be sometime in our 40s :LOL
 

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I definitely sympathize. While we are technically in the same bed, since most nights we have two kids between us and can't even reach other (king-size bed and spread-out kids), it's as if we aren't in the same bed. Really sucks.
 

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We have a nb who sleeps in a sidecar, and a huge 2 year old who sleeps in between us. Some nights dh sleeps in ds' room if he feels run down or if we want ds to actually try to use his own bed. We have both loved co-sleeping, though. It's actually been dh who has been hesitant to move ds into his own bed.<br>
Who knows when we'll actually be able to have our bed back. There is definitely some intimacy- not sex necessarily- just intimacy that is lacking because of the situation. We haven't yet figured out exactly how to compensate for that and still enjoy co-sleeping. It's as if something has to give.
 

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Well we are in the same boat. DD has slept in our bed since birth and while we really like that closeness we both seriously miss being able to spoon our way to sleep. DH & I do still sleep in the same bed but with DD between us most nights so spooning is not an option. I think it would be even rougher on me if DH & I slept in seperate rooms. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> I feel for ya, Mama! I wish I had some advice!
 

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I don't have any answers, but understand the problem. My dh is on the couch, his choice. Ds sleeps with me. Dh used to sleep with us, but move out when ds was about 3 months old (he's 16 months old now). I miss the snuggling but don't miss the snoring! LOL! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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I hear you. Dh sleeps with ds in our room on the twin bed, and I sleep in our bed with the baby. Sometimes we sneak in 15 minutes of cuddle time, but I really miss sleeping with him!
 

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Another me, too! We have a king and a queen pushed together and so we *technically* sleep together but since dh and dd#1 sleep on the queen and I sleep on the king with dd's #2&3, it's not like sleeping together at all.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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I definitely agree with this but we are at the point where we still think that the good parts of co-sleeping outweigh the bad parts and I have a feeling we have at least at few years left of co-sleeping (especially if I can convince dh to go for #4!).
 

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I'm so glad to see I'm not alone. Right now, DH sleeps in the queen size bed, and DD and I sleep on a full-size mattress on the floor. Once or twice a week, I manage to sneak back into bed w/ DH after DD has gone to sleep. DD usually wakes up after an hour or so and realizes I'm gone, but that hour of snuggling really helps us reconnect. I don't know if that would be an option for you or not, but I understand how you feel. ((Hugs))
 

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It's the same thing over here - I'm in the guest room with DD (10.5 months old) and DH is in "our" room......I keep telling myself "this too shall pass" - and hopefully QUICKLY!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> to you!!
 

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dh and I rock our ds to sleep every night. once he's asleep, we put him between me and the wall, so dh and I can cuddle to sleep. we actually still put him in a sleep positioner so he wont roll over towards us until his first wake up time. after that, he's between us rolling everywhere, but at least until then dh and I can cuddle. we decided once our snuggle time ended for good, babe would move to his own bed.........in our room of course <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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