[Zach'smom]

I am just so frustrated! Usually I am able to let everything roll off my back, but something just struck a cord with me today! I never tell people how to raise their children! Even when I really disagree I bite my tongue. I thought I had the right to raise my son as I see fit!<br><br>
-No, my son does not go to day care. Yet somehow he is well adjusted, smart and well socialized. He is three and I have no plans of sending him to preschool anytime soon!<br><br>
- No, he has never eaten at a burger joint or fast food place. He has no idea who Ronald McDonald is or what the heck a Happy meal is! He has never played in a McDonalds germland! He has never had soda. I am not saying he does not get to eat junk. He gets plenty. I just choose to control what and how much comes in my house!<br><br>
-No, I am not having another child! I swear I am just going to pin a sign on my forehead! It seems that ever since Zach got close to three everyone on the planet decided I should have another. Not that it anyones business, but I can't. I am infertile. Didn't they notice that I was married nearly 10 years before I got pregnant????? No they were too busy badgering me to have kids.<br>
Usually I can blow people off pretty well. But now a person told me it was "child abuse" to have only one. Frankly, I think child abuse is her fat kid eating a happy meal and sucking down a supersize soda.<br><br>
What is wrong with people these days??? Maybe I just have my priorities mixed up. UGH! Thanks for listening!

 

[iamama]

Sorry your having a bad day but it does feel nice letting it all out....child abuse for having one child pleazzzze.

 

[wende]

LOL, you can't win either way. I was told that it was child abuse to be having my 5th, my poor children! I can't believe that someone would say that to you! It's horrible and none of his/her business whether or not you decide to or can have any more. You sound like a great mom to me!

 

[Lucky Charm]

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[paquerette]

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Rude, rude, rude! That person deserves to be treated to a. A lengthy diatribe on your medical problems and (presumably) what you had to go through to get one, and 2. Another lengthy diatribe on REAL child abuse -- all the beaten, starved, neglected, molested kids out there go through every day -- including the ones who have to 'parent' a bunch of younger siblings cause "mom" keeps popping them out & not taking care of them! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"> It's as bad as people calling someone a "Nazi" because they don't agree with them or have strong opinions or whatever -- like, do they KNOW what the Nazis did? They insult the memory of real people who suffered when they toss around a term like that casually, KWIM?<br>
/rant.<br><br>
And whoa, I hadn't heard that it was abusive not to send kids to daycare! Last I heard, it was abusive to have to go to work and stick your kids with daycare or a sitter! Will "they" never make up their minds?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">

 

[Dr.Worm]

I also have gotten the preschool comments. Like...how can she deprive her kid of preschool and stay home with her? Like I don't read to my daugher or teach her anything. We have Mcdonald's sometimes but I think it's up to parents if they want to take their kids there! But I cannot believe the child abuse comment most of all. What a horrible thing to say. I am an only child and don't feel like my parents abused me because I didn't have brothers and sisters. People are psycho sometimes.

 

[Parthenia]

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I got that a lot, too, maybe not the child abuse line, though. Definitely the sentiment I would damage my child if we didn't give her a sibling. And then we got a surprise, and we're expecting another. I can't tell you how many sighs of relief I heard. Finally dd would get a sibling, even if they were spaced too far apart.<br><br>
I come from a huge family. My dad has 9 brothers and sisters, my mother has 4. Most of my cousins are only children, as am I. Whenever the comments about having more came up, I mentioned that I had a very happy childhood, as did my only children cousins, people still didn't realize they were walking a fine line of being rude. It was implied that there was something wrong with *me*, I didn't know what a happy childhood was, because my parents were so awful and never had more kids.<br>
Oh well. Let it roll off. Busybodies will be busybodies.

 

[MomEarth]

Sounds like you're a GREAT mom to me, Zach'smom!! There's just so many lame moms out there that when a good one is in their midst, they recognize her as odd.<br><br>
Keep on keepin' on, girl! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">

 

[captain optimism]

I think if I had been in your shoes I would have said, "I'm infertile, and you are an insensitive person, I would say cow but I like cows."<br><br>
With the daycare stuff, there is always someone to tell you that whatever you are doing is wrong, even if you don't have much of a choice about it.