[Boobiemama]

My baby is 2o months old and I am 20 weeks pregnant. NUrsing is driving me insane. I HATE nursing right now. Its all night long, its first thing in the morning, its nap time, whenever she gets mad or grumpy, its bedtime, only to start all over again all night. sigh.... I hate the feeling of her mouth on me, it makes me want to run away from her. One nipple is actually hurting when she nurses , the other one is just plain annoying.

Please give me some advice here. I dont know what to do. I am afraid if I dont wean before the baby is born, she will be even more demanding than she already is. But I dont want to hurt her by weaning. But I am really going crazy here.

I nursed my son till he was 3 1/2, he weaned all on his own around this time in my pregnancy. I never had feelings like this when he was nursing if I remember correctly.

Anyone else ever feel like this? Or am I just a bad mom?

 

[~Megan~]

I am reading "Adventures in Tandem Nursing" and what you are describing is exactly what is covered in the book. I recommend that you get the book and see if it has some ideas for you. I only have one child and am not pregnant so I really don't have a lot of advice for you.

 

[UlrikeDG]

I can't imagine weaning a child that young. It would just make things so much harder when the new baby comes. Having said that, I DO understand. It is hard to nurse while pregnant. Really, freaking hard!

I can't help you wean, because I've never done it, but I can try to help you cope in the mean time (I assume you're not going cold turkey). DISTRACTIONS! Distraction, distraction, distraction. Read a book while you nurse. Watch TV while you nurse. NAK. Wiggle your toes! Play mental games. Drink cold water with a squeeze of lemon. I found that pinching or scratching the skin on my breast a little away from the nipple helped a LOT. I wasn't trying to hurt myself, just confuse the nerve endings a little so that it wouldn't bother me quite so much. All these things helped me a great deal.

I did finally make it through the pregnancy without hurting anyone, and I found being able to nurse my 2 year old and my newborn both was so much easier than having a weaned 2 year old would have been.

 

[Boobiemama]

I know, you are completely right, I cant really see weaning her now either. Especially after nursing her brother for 3 1/2 years, theres a huge difference.
I just get so frustrated. Especially when she doesnt just nurse and get done, she wants to play and mess around, putting her cold little hand in my shirt twiddling at my stomach, etc..... LOL

Hmm, maybe I should eat chocolate bars while nursing, maybe that will distract me a little!

Its got to get better than this....

And I plan to pick up that book,
I'll go do that now, head ot the LLL site.

Thanks!

 

[TigerTail]

i had a 20 m old when i was pregnant with my last, and i can definately get where you are coming from. the combo of him driving me NUTS and i guess the taste of the milk going to colostrum made us both eventually decrease nursing as my pregnany went on, till i was concerned towards the end he might've weaned himself (which was never my intention, just trying not to go crazy from an excess of *touch*)... well, when the milk came in, boy was i glad to have a thirsty toddler to help out (esp when i got my first bout with mastitus! ouch!) he went back to being the champion milker he's always been, and most of the time, i'm glad. i'd just distract, like ulrike said, and try to cope (distracting her from nursing as much, as well as myself to help cope!)

good luck, suse

 

[chiromommy]

I know your pain! My dd was 24 mos when I got preg with my youngest. She was a needy nurser too - constant and lots of twiddling. I remember that feeling of wanting to jump out of my skin and run away! Yuck!!!! She did not wean (I do not think she would have even if I had tried) and it got much better after the preg was over. My only advice is the same as the others - DIstraction. I did visualizations and the sort. I found if I could calm down and start to think about other things and remember why i was doing this in the first place it helped make it bearable. My dh thought i was nuts! He would walk in and I would be lying on the bed with a pillow over my head making awful noises with a toddler hanging off of my boob happy as could be

My older has finally weaned at 4 years old - she has been boob-free for a whole month!

 

[Boobiemama]

You know, just "talking" about this has helped. I know it is important to my daughter, and I am doing the best thing for her, but geez some days......

I dont really want to wean now, I just want to get through this without going crazy. I thougt nursing would get easier as the preg preogresed. I heard so many mamas saying they had sore nipples in the beginning of preg, mine wer fine then, its gotten worse the fartehr along I am. I just hope it doesnt get worse than this. Actually today wasnt too bad.... Lets hope the trend continues.

 

[beachrock]

Boobiemama, have you thought about night weaning, so you can get some respite form nursing AND get some much needed rest before #3 comes? 20 mo. does seem a litte young for complete weaning, but NW might be ok with her.