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so I loved my pedi till today <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> we took Isaac in after talking to the nurse and I knew he had a cold but I am scared of him getting worse since some of our friends kids have .. well he made me feel dumb <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: then he was asking about where Isaac sleeps since we were advised to use a humidifier for him , i said "with us" he said "when can he move to his own room" , I told him we live in an one bedroom apt and he has a crib and sleeps in it sometimes but still nite nurses well he said when will that stop , i said i do not know ... he said when mommy stops it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> i am so hurt and sad .. he did not ask about solids but i am sure that will come up at the one year check up .. i want a new pedi .. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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You deserve a better doc, one who treats you with respect, since you know your child best and are the one entrusted with your child's care. Have you considered a family practice doctor? I get the impression they give out less unsolicited parenting advice. FYT often has good recommendations. Sorry for such a bad visit--you shouldn't have to be paid to be treated like that!
 

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Wow, what a crummy doctor. So sorry you had that experience. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
My dd is younger than your ds by about 10 days, and she still wakes to nurse twice in the night. She gets lots of solids, but it doesn't make any difference. She also sleeps with us. We have no plans to change that, and our MD supports our choices. Have you tried a family MD instead of a pedi? Sometimes they're more open to natural living. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
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I am so sorry. It makes me crazy that MD's will treat parents like idiots when they are making informed,responsible, and nurturing decisions for their children. WTF anyway your ds isn't even a year old why wouldn't he be night nursing still? My cousin had a similiar experience from her dentist when she went to get ehr wisdom teeth out. She has an 8 mo and he gave her crap for still nursing. I would at least expect more from a pedi.
 

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I am sorry you were treated this way.<br>
This is wrong and sadly you are not alone.<br>
Ds's first ped guffawed that I was STILL bfing at 6 months. And "forced " me to vax him by coercing me.<br>
It is hard to find these days to especially since we live in a world where we are told not to think for ourselves but listen to the "experts"<br>
Write the dr a letter explaining why you will no longer be a patient and ask around for a friendly ped.
 

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Bedside manner???? He sounds just rude as a human, much less someone in what's supposed to be a position of respect.
 

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I'm sorry that you had to deal with this.<br><br>
FWIW, I try to have a different point of view. I take my child to the pediatrician for medical care. I do not trust myself (at least when he is this little) to pick up on subtleties in his cornea, to look into his ears, to find a murmur, etc. This is what my pediatrician is for. I also like that she knows me in case my son is ever really sick. I need someone to go to if I am worried.<br><br>
That said, when she brings up night weaning, I say, "we're very happy doing what we're doing." When she brings up solids, I say, "oh, he can start now (4 months), that's great," when I plan to start at 6 months. When she brought up sleeping arrangements when he was still in our bed, I said, "He has a crib." Well, he did <i>have</i> one. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Anyway, I just consider her a medical professional, not a parenting guru. I want to be treated with respect, of course, and I am the mama, so my decisions need to hold. But, I don't tell her things she doesn't need to know.
 

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I 2nd that... I'm so sorry you're going thru this!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm sorry that you had to deal with this.<br><br>
FWIW, I try to have a different point of view. I take my child to the pediatrician for medical care. I do not trust myself (at least when he is this little) to pick up on subtleties in his cornea, to look into his ears, to find a murmur, etc. This is what my pediatrician is for. I also like that she knows me in case my son is ever really sick. I need someone to go to if I am worried.<br><br>
That said, when she brings up night weaning, I say, "we're very happy doing what we're doing." When she brings up solids, I say, "oh, he can start now (4 months), that's great," when I plan to start at 6 months. When she brought up sleeping arrangements when he was still in our bed, I said, "He has a crib." Well, he did <i>have</i> one. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Anyway, I just consider her a medical professional, not a parenting guru. I want to be treated with respect, of course, and I am the mama, so my decisions need to hold. But, I don't tell her things she doesn't need to know.</div>
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I agree with this. My ped is VERY mainstream in a lot of ways. But he is WONDERFUL with my son and my son loves him. He lights up when he walks in the exam room. That is going to be very helpful one day when he's sick and miserable.<br><br>
At our first appt we got the routine of "every disease kills" when we weren't vaxing. However, I think he realizes we're more informed than most of his parents and at our last visit he said, "so, is the little guy getting anything today?" I told him what he was getting and it was all good.<br><br>
I think if you stand your ground in a polite, informed way you can work with a reasonable, yet mainstream, doctor. But if they continue to question you in a negative way I would look for someone else.
 

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"Anyway, I just consider her a medical professional, not a parenting guru"<br><br>
BetsyS - good point!<br><br>
Doctors have their own preferences and ways of doing things that they believe are "right" - just as we all do. But they are versed within medical issues, not necessarily parenting issues, which are subjective.
 

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i agree with what besty said but it was the way he said it more than that he said that irked me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: i appreciate all of you for responding and the hugs ... i am still on a quest to find a different doctor ... thanks !
 

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Our first dr (FP dr) was like that, I hated him. He would tell us how babies DIED from co-sleeping and then 'fired' us when we chose not to vax. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: We got a reccomendation for a friend and we love our new ped, she just had her 5th baby. Your dr would be really upset at my 3.5yo who still doesn't like to sleep alone. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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i bet he would ...he would have issue if he really asked what we were doing ..especially re:solids ... i am going to another dr next month for one yr check up.
 
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