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My dh is working late again tonight (late being defined as until after the kids are in bed). He'll be working late 3 nights this week. I'm just so tired. My dh produces the city government cable channel and has to film local events, which become more frequent in the spring and summer. He'll be working late at least 6 nights a month until mid summer.<br><br>
Both my kiddos go to sleep about the same time. Normally, my dh puts Ava (3) down while I nurse the baby to sleep. When he's not around, I end up going through the bedtime routine (pj's, brush teeth, potty, 2 books, bed0 while Jules, on a good night crawls around and plays, on a bad night, cries the whole time. It's so stressful from about 5 to 7:30. I really don't feel like my dh "gets it" I don't get extra help or sympathy even though I'm working my a** off.<br><br>
Any tips for coping with a missing spouse would help, ladies. I know many of you have much more difficult situations and I hope to learn from your wisdom. Thanks.<br><br>
peace, Beth
 

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I'm going to be in a similar boat pretty soon, too. My DH is a musician & summer theater will be starting very soon - it's 20 performance plus probably 10 additional rehearsals over the next 2 1/2 months. All of which leave me alone in the evenings w/DD, although with 1 it can't be as bad as with 2!!<br><br>
My only advice is be prepared.... have food, pjs, books, etc all laid out ahead of time and if bedtime doesn't happen on time, you just gotta say, Oh well! Can you sling the little one around with ya? Maybe everybody goes to bed in the big bed & then move them as needed when they fall asleep?<br><br>
Good luck!!
 

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Aw, man! That's hard. I have no practical advice, but maybe just a suggestion to think about your kids in another 10 years doing the wonderful things that you have helped guide them to!<br><br>
Think about the days they were born and how you felt when you first touched them/saw them.<br><br>
Think about them coming back to your house all grown up with their partners and maybe your beautiful, cherubic grandbabies! They might tell you about the nights they remember having you all to themselves and how much they cherished that and remembered it all thier lives.<br><br>
That's what I try to do when I get stressed and focused on the trees instead of the forest! THIS WILL NOT BE FOREVER! And you can do it. You can. It may not be pretty, but you will get through and someday you will laugh (or at least groan!).<br><br>
Hang in there, mama! You're doing great!<br><br>
Now, somebody give this woman some REAL advice!!<br><br>
eta: Bippity, we cross posted. Your advice was what I meant by the above. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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