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Help! I totally do not know what to do here. My son is 2 1/2 and still nurses ALOT. I mean ALOT! I do not know what to do. You know how sometimes it just helps to talk about things? Well, whenever I say anything to anyone about it, 99.99% of people just say "well, wean him".<br>
I have no idea how to even respond to that because<br>
#1 i don't really want him to wean<br>
#2 how on earth are you supposed to wean a 2 1/2 y.o who nurses as much as a newborn without traumatizing him<br><br>
So anyway, this is my problem. During then night ---> morning he is nursing almost continuously from I'd say about 10 pm through 10 am with MAYBE a 1-2 hour break. that break is not a 1 hour block...it is 10 minutes here, 10 minutes there. If I so much as get out to the bed to pee in the middle of the night he has a major tantrum.<br>
I am missing sleep, i am crabby and irritable and I feel so sleep deprived. I can't stand it anymore. I cannot understand his constant night nursing. His day nursing has significantly increased as well. I simply do not know what to do. I feel touched out about 98% of the time. There are times that I really enjoy nursing, however, since this has been going on, my nipples feel a tad abused and i'm starting to resent the whole thing.<br>
Has anyone faced this? Am i terrible for wanting him to stop? I need sleep and i need my own space. My 4 y.o is so jealous of him because of this. and he totally plays into this. If i sit down to read to her he tries to nurse and will throw a major fit if I ask him to wait while i read to emily.<br><br>
ok, i don't even know if this post makes sense. I am so emotionally confused about this issue. I want to continue to nurse, but at this point i dont' know how this could continue on. and then on the other side of the coin i wouldn't even know how to limit it without causing major trauma.<br>
i'm so lost.<br>
any thoughts?<br>
am i crazy?<br>
sorry this post is so random.<br>
Amy
 

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No you're not crazy at all!! And i TOTALLY feel for what you are going through. Its obvious that you do not want to wean, and you dont have to. This doesnt have to be all or nothing. My daughter is 22 months and recently i just went over the edge with night nursing - it got to the point where i was starting to resent nursing her completly.<br><br>
I used Dr. Jay Gordons night weaning plan - and i am really happy about the way it worked for us.<br><br><a href="http://www.drjaygordon.com/development/ap/sleep.asp" target="_blank">http://www.drjaygordon.com/development/ap/sleep.asp</a><br><br>
There was a lot of crying involved, especially the first 2 nights. But i really belive that crying in my arms, being hummed to and rubbed is WAYYYYY different then being alone in a room by herself. KWIM?<br><br>
And for us, it was either that this work or i was going to have to wean cold turkey - and i REALLY didnt want to do that. This process went as gently as possible, and i only changed the night nursing. Figure out which thing you want to change and just focus on that. I think it would be very hard for him to drastically change night AND day time all at once.<br><br>
As for during the day - try and stay busy. When we are running around and doing errands and going to the park..etc...she doesnt ask to nurse as much as she does when we are home just hanging out.<br><br>
Your son is also is old enough to learn some nursing manners - you are not a bad mommy for telling him that "right now it is not a good time." But be sure to tell him when it will be time to nurse.<br><br>
For example<br>
"Mommy is reading DD a book right now, come help us find the birdy in the picture...and after we finish the book we can nurse."<br><br>
If he freaks out - let him. Pick him up and say "I understand that you want to nurse and you are mad because we cant right now, but we will nurse when the book is done." And then let him have his little freak out. Its hard for AP parents to see their children having temper tantrums - but all children have them about a variety of things - this is not just because you are nursing him.<br><br>
Make sure he knows that you understand what he wants, and you understand that he is mad, and that you will nurse him at x time.<br><br>
In the end you need to do what works best for your family, a happy mommy is a good mommy and you need to have your needs met as well.<br><br>
Good luck honey, you're not alone!
 

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I wouldn't say it is new, i would say that it has grown into constant night time nursing from less than that before.<br>
He does have tooth aches. I've had him to the dentist and he has numerous cavitites which of course the dentist blames on night nursing and is telling me i need to wean him. i do think it might be related to his comfort nursing because of his teeth, however, it is just not sustainable for me.<br>
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Around 2-3 my son LOVED nursing and nursed alot!<br>
I know how you feel, its very draining.<br>
You are not crazy, you are just having a ruff time.<br>
All I can say is that it does get better, my son is 4.5 years old and I can tell you I am so glad we have decided to child-led wean.<br>
If you need to just vent this is a great place, alot of mamas have been there and done that here on this board.<br><br>
Sending positive vibes and a big hug your way!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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Other than here and supportive friends and family, I just don't talk about it.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
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Try looking at the No cry sleep Solution. If you could get him to sleep better you would have the perspective to be creative about daytime limits that would work for your family. You may not need to night wean, just help the kid cut back so he only nurses every 3-4 hours at night. If he can't stay asleep without the nipple in his mouth, he is likely in pain. Help him feel better so you can sleep.
 

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I wanted to post an update. Has anyone ever had a complete and total DUH! moment. With DD, we had her sleep elevated on a pillow because i fully suspected some reflux with her. Well, i guess my mommy mind fog took over me and i never tried this with DS. Something clicked recently and I placed a pillow on his part of the bed and I have him sleeping elevated and he is sleeping SO MUCH BETTER!! He still wakes up toward the end of the night to nurse, but it is so improved. He still nurses a lot during the day, but i am totally not minding it because he isn't wearing me out at night.<br>
YIpee!<br>
Amy
 
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