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My DS and I had a rough start to BFing. He could not latch well when he was born because of a tongue tie. Then he develpoed breast aversion from overly aggressive techniques of the nurses at the hospital. Due to advice from our LC we started bottle feeding him my pumped breastmilk for the first four weeks. Then I managed to get him nursing on a nipple shield and we have been nursing exclusively ever since (he's almost 12 weeks now). His frenulum has been clipped and he gets more and more movement with his tongue every week but latching onto my bare nipple is still hard for him (he can only stay on for a minute or so - we are working on it but slowly and gently because of the previous breast aversion issues).<br><br>
I have been doing on-demand nursing since we started nursing exclusively. And I have been really keeping track of all his nursing - when, how long, which boob, etc. But it has been stressful for me and everytime he nurses less frequently than the day before or has a fussy nursing session I start to get worried about how much he is getting and also my milk supply.<br><br>
I know that I am being overly paranoid. If anything, my milk supply has been closer to an oversupply than a low supply. And his breast feeding specialist doctor AND his occupational therapist/LC (not the one who recomended the bottle, we stopped seeing her) have told me the nipple shield is not impacting my supply at all (and that the latest studies say the silicone ones do not).<br><br>
And yet I worry about it constantly.<br><br>
Today has been extra hard because we have friends in from out of town and our routine has been all off. My DS has not nursed well today and gotten all overstimulated so this evening he has been super fussy nursing. Fussy nursing is so hard for me because it reminds me of his breast aversion days. I feel today like he has not eaten enough. And yet, everytime I feel this way, the very next day he will have tons of wet and poopy diapers. I felt this way yesterday and so far today he has had 6 big poopy diapers and more wet ones.<br><br>
In order to try and head off this over worrying, I stopped keeping track of when he was eating today and for how long. AND I just started trying to decide when it was time to switch boobs intuitively (we do one boob per feeding since he nurses for very short amounts of time always - 3-5 minutes).<br><br>
This has been sort of freeing but also made me worry more because it is now the end of the day and it feels like he has mostly fussy nursed all day without taking much in.<br><br>
I guess I just need some encouragement. I know if I can get through this for a few days I will realize that he IS eating enough and my milk supply IS fine and I can just start going with the flow.<br><br>
I really want to just relax about breastfeeding. I envy all the moms I see at my mommy/baby group who just seem to pop their babies on whichever breast without a worry. It's been 12 weeks of stress and I really want this to start being easier.
 

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I don't have much advice, just support. My ds (now 7 mo.) wouldn't nurse well unless I was at home, lying in bed with him. I tried for so many months to get him to nurse elsewhere and it was also so stressful. In the end I now nurse him always in the room, or else bring a bottle with me. It wasn't worth the stress.<br><br>
I know this is different from your situation, I just wanted to say that I understand you wanting it to be easier. I feel jealous of other mom's too that can BF anywhere, and do so seemingly without any worries.<br><br>
Not to add to your stress, but maybe the fussy is from something else-- food sensitivity, too much noise in the room, etc.? It sounds like you are making enough milk?<br><br>
Again, keep it up you are giving your son such a wonderful gift! You are such a great mom!
 

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Mama,<br><br>
you are doing a wonderful thing to give your son the gift of breastmilk! as long as his diapers are on track and he's growing he is getting enough. babies are fussy for all kinds of reasons and that doesn't mean he's not getting enough. have you tried swaddling him while nursing? that helps some babies nurse better (and makes other babies mad, haha)<br><br>
hope you are able to cut yourself some slack. you are doing a great thing!!
 

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first breath! okay now that we have done that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> you are doing great! I think it is a good idea to not keep track. that always stressed me out. will he side lay nurse? sorry I am not much help I just wanted to give you support. you can do this! I know you can!
 

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Oh, mama! I had a rough start as well with this baby and I absolutely hear where you're coming from. No tongue tie issues but he would refuse the breast often starting from around 5 weeks and it was horrible, every feed was me battling him screaming. My first loved to nurse and would nurse all day long if I would let him, but this one rejected me all the time. It HURTS emotionally. It did, thankfully, improve a lot, although he still only eats when he is hungry and does not comfort nurse in the slightest. My favourite time to nurse him is when he is asleep for this reason. I also had the worries over getting enough - when I could only get him to feed for 2-3 mins max this freaked me out. I was using disposable nappies as well and found it hard to tell when he was really wet, and would pump when I was not happy he had eaten enough so to at least preserve my supply somewhat if he had a difficult day.<br><br>
Hugs mama!
 

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I had a rough start, too. Also had a baby with a tongue tie that we clipped on the 3 day in the hospital. But the difficulty continued for about a month. I have larg nipples so I know that part of it was oral/nipple size problems. Maybe some supply problems. I had to supplement formula for about 2 weeks of about on average 4 ounces a day since she hadn't regained her birth weight. I started to go to the hospital breastfeeding support group where I could weigh her every week. I was constantly worried even though she had plenty of poopy/pee diapers. Once she regained her birth weight at 3 weeks and only after some supplementation did I stop the supplementing. And then it wasn't until another 8 weeks that I probably stopped worrying about her every week.<br><br>
Are there any groups in your area? Does your hospital have lactation department? Can you go in and get a pre-nursing/post-nurging weigh?<br><br>
My daughter doesn't fuss anymore but I still wonder if she gets enough. But she is at 50% on weight growth chart so I think she is ok. But, now that I am back to work, I find that after not nursing all day I can pump a certain amount throughout the day. When she is nursing during the day on a non-work day, I am never engorged at the end of the day so I know she is probalby taking in what I would otherwise be pumping on a work day.<br><br>
Do you co-sleep? If not, you might try a few nights and nurse throughout the night. It helps alot with my DD and I.<br><br>
It's rough... hang in there.
 
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