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One of the neighbor car pools and is never waiting for the driver so the driver (found out today it's a woman)just beeps until he comes out. Annoying, but one of those things you learn to live with. Today she lay on the horn constantly for literally 5 straight minutes at 545am! DD woke up crying and crabby, I was so PO'd that I grabbed her, wrapped a robe around my half naked self and went outside. I knocked on her passenger window and startled her (FINALLY the beeping stops) and said Hey Lady, when someone isn't ready for you, you get out of the d*** car and ring their bell so that you wake THEM up and not the whole d*** neighborhood!<br><br>
So now that's I'm back inside and calm, DD is settled with breakfast and I'm trying to get a jump on emails and I'm so mortified!!! Ugh, now I'm going to be the crazy woman who swears at innocent carpoolers.
 

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I think you were totally justified. Anyone laying on the horn for 5 minutes at 5:45 am is in no way an "innocent carpooler". That's really rude (her, not you).
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think you were totally justified. Anyone laying on the horn for 5 minutes at 5:45 am is in no way an "innocent carpooler". That's really rude (her, not you).</div>
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Honking period at 5:45am is just plain rude. Laying on the horn for 5 minutes? Yeah, she deserved to have a robe wearing, angry momma on her about it.
 

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Good for you<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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No, I think your reaction was pretty appropriate! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br><br>
The neighbors have a similar situation, but we live in the country. One day their delivery truck (full size transport truck) was waiting..and honking...and honking...and honking for a good 15 minutes. I finally pulled out my cell and called the neighbors, no answer, so I ran down and signed for their shipment <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I figured it was easier than listening to the poor guy lay on the horn. At least it was the middle of the afternoon, not 5:45am! sheesh!
 

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Not only would I have done exactly what you did, I might have had my screaming child with me in my arms to further proove the point of what a complete and utter JACK @$$ she was acting like. And an F-bomb might have been thrown in there too, muffled to gaurd my DC's ears of course. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"><br><br>
Seroiusly, I dont think people use the brains God gave them sometimes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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I think you did the right thing. She was being horrible, waking the ENTIRE neighborhood and why...because she didn't want to walk up and ring the doorbell? Really?
 

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You were soooo justified. That is awful. Hopefully it won't happen again.
 

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I'm glad no one thinks I'm nuts - it's just such an odd reaction for me. I usually avoid conflict. I don't know the neighbors very well - just to say hello to when I'm walking the dog. I figured I'd just do the usual, hi, how are you when I walk by tonight. DH thinks they'll either be clueless or embarrassed and won't bring it up. Let's see how tomorrow morning goes.
 

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Um, ya, if anyone should be embarassed it should be that lady (and your neighbour!) No sane person does that at *anytime* of the day, nevermind at 5:45!!!!!
 

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Good grief, what is wrong with people? There are times where I'm waiting for a friend and do not want to get out of the car (too cold or wet, pregnancy, laziness). I use this magical device called a CELL PHONE.<br><br>
I think you handled it a lot more sanely than I might have at that time of the morning.
 

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Good for you!!!!!!!!<br><br>
Go out each and every time that twit beeps and/or go to the neighbors house and tell them to get the heck out already.<br><br>
I would be mad too if someone woke me that early.Yesterday a barking dog woke me at 4am.Unfortunately it was my dog <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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Fully justified. You have no reason to feel bad.<br><br>
I called the police on the teen next door a few years ago. Dd was just born, I was exhausted. At 5 am she got up to get ready for school and had the stereo on crazy loud. I got dressed and banged on the door. She wouldn't answer (because who would at 5am??) and finally I went in and called the police. I think they must have called her, because shortly after the music stopped.
 

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Your reaction was excellent. I'm sure the lady will avoid doing that BS in the future.<br><br>
Yes, it's annoying for the lady that your neighbor isn't ready, but laying on the horn is NOT appropriate.<br><br>
Reminds me of my boss and an ex-employee, they were friends and they went to the gym together every morning at 4am. The employee didn't have a car, so my boss would go pick him up. The employee told me, in total mortification, that our boss would have the music BLARING in his car (you know, where everyone in the whole block can hear) - AND, on top of that, he insisted on honking the horn whenever he got there. The employee was always ready to go and watching at the window so no honking necessary. He asked the boss to quit it but the boss said he didn't give a crap. Yeah, my boss is a narcissist (no, really).
 

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You definitely do not need to take a chill pill. YOU were not rude. You did exactly the right thing. I can't fathom being so rude and clueless as to blare on the horn at 5:45am. I get annoyed when there is even one honk from a car-pooler. Either the one being picked up needs to be ready and at the door on time, or the driver can get their lazy butt out of the car and ring the bell. (Sorry for those that honk, i don't mean to offend, but I have been woken up, and my child has been woken up dozens of times by car-poolers who do this, and it really ticks me off).<br><br>
I carpooled with a friend in high school. Her mom always blared on the horn when she came to get me (and sometimes she'd be early so I was not 100% ready.) But when my dad was driving he made me go up and ring the bell. I much prefer it that way.<br><br>
Also, in this age of cell phones , why the heck can't the driver make a call? Why blare the horn and piss off the neighborhood?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Also, in this age of cell phones , why the heck can't the driver make a call? Why blare the horn and piss off the neighborhood?</div>
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The ironic answere to this question would be the carpooler didnt want the driver calling the house and waking any other inhabitants up. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh"><br><br>
Sorry, couldnt help myself. People are so dumb sometimes.
 

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What a UAV!! How could <i>anyone</i> not realize how insanely rude that was??? She should be ashamed of herself -- I'm glad you pointed out to her how horrible she was behaving.
 

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No way is it rude! You're my hero. Some people just don't think (or figure that everyone will be too polite to say anything).<br><br>
I have to do this all the time sadly. I live on a college campus and students are usually not thinking about politeness or the needs of sleepy babies. But once you point out to them that they are being less than neighborly they are very contrite. I've never had the same offender twice...but there are just so many of them its hard to keep up!
 

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Hmm in every place I've lived there have been noise ordinance laws that declare a "quiet time" from usually 11 pm to 8 am. Laying on a horn is definitely in violation of that, and you most certainly were NOT rude! She's lucky that you were as nice as you were - I'm not sure she'd have gotten as mellow of a response from me!
 
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