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DD has been behaving in a way for the last couple of months which really baffles me. Last night is a perfect example.<br><br>
We always nurse to sleep in the bed. We did our usual thing, and then she rolled away from me and said, "Close your top, please." :LOL She's never said that before. She then said, "Nurse." and we went on to have the following conversation:<br><br>
me: OK.<br>
DD: No.<br>
me: You just said nurse, do you want to nurse?<br>
DD: No.<br>
me: OK.<br>
DD: Nurse.<br>
me: OK.<br>
DD: No.<br>
me: Do you want to just snuggle up and go to sleep?<br>
DD: Nurse.<br>
me: OK.<br>
DD: No.<br><br>
etc. etc.<br><br>
Finally I said I would just lie there with my shirt up and she could do what she wanted. She told me to close my top again. :LOL She also said, "I'm done!" a couple of times in there. The gist is that when I go along with her statements that she's done or doesn't want to nurse, she immediately says she wants to; when I go along with that, she says she doesn't want to. It's like it's opposite day. Come to think of it, it's like that a lot around here.<br><br>
Anyway, DH came and got her as usual when she doesn't nurse to sleep. She screamed the entire time with him and was back with me in less than 10 minutes, and happily nursed to sleep.<br><br>
So what am I supposed to do with all the opposite talk? I know she's trying to establish her independence, etc. but what do I practically do in a situation like last night? If I just don't respond, she escalates in whichever direction she was last heading. It's like she just likes to have the conversation. That could have gone on all night long since she apparently wasn't feeling ready to sleep at that time.<br><br>
TIA...
 

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I was going to ask if she had just turned 2, and then I saw your .sig! :LOL My DS was also born 9/03, and he is going through a lot of what you're talking about. I think she does want to nurse to sleep, but she wants some say in what you're doing. Try giving her the option of nursing on the right side or the left side. My DS thinks it's great, although he asks to switch sides a lot now.
 

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My nurslings are only 13 months and my last one weaned around this age (not a nursing strike, she said 'no tanks' every time I offered and never wanted to nurse again... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> ) but when they start with the same thing, though nonverbal, I usually just take them back downstairs or let my dh take them. It only takes a little while until they're really ready to go to sleep. We do the same thing when one or both wake up as "Mr. Happy Pants" in the middle of the night. Usually 10 - 20 minutes of playing is enough before they're ready to go back to bed.<br><br>
Reading your post, all I could think of was the "drop the toy and watch the big people pick it up game" from infancy. It gave me a chuckle, sorry.
 

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ROFL! I'm going through this w/ ds2 right now except he can't talk much at all, unlike ds1 at this age. I had a lot of fun w/ it w/ ds1, but I'm having a really hard time w/ ds2. Combination of his being nonverbal and having a newborn to take care of as well. I'm drinking caffeinated coffee right now. Hope that doesn't backfire on me, but I am not functional these days. People who have their kids close together on purpose are completely INSANE, I've come to believe! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wild.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wild"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut">
 

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that's too funny! ds has been doing this for a few weeks. he says "close the milk mommy" and then he'll roll around on the bed and then he'll say "i want the milk in the shirt" and then again tells me to close the milk and rolls around and on and on until finally he crashes while nursing... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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