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The hardest part was getting DS into the system so that I could get his first appt., and onto DH's page 2, and getting the birth certificate.<br>
I called the appt line and they refered me to admissions since he wasn't birthed there.I waited on hold for quite a while and was told no one has ever done this before.They finally said that I had to go in and get a Drs note stating when he was born and that he actually was born.They needed a professional's word, even if I had gotten a gate guard to come in and say they cut the cord it was better than mine or my mom's.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: The Dr was reluctant and questioned me several times, even calling me after I had left his office to get my story.He did write out a letter with info that I supplied to him.I took that down to admissions and he was entered in so that DH could get his records straight and I we could get the BC.<br>
The people at the BC office were the easiest to deal with.There was a whole lot of extra info asked on the form but we were given the chance to be very specific with his ethnic background.(we are very,very mixed)<br>
All throughout the process I got exclamations of "oh, I couldn't do that, I'd be so scared!I wouldn't know what to do!Oh, the mess! Oh, how brave! Why didn't you go to the hospital?"I told them umm... this is my fourth if I didn't know what to do and was scared I have no business being a mom of two toddlers.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> I also have fast labors (once this one started for good It was way fast) so it helps to be prepared so that I don't wind up having a baby on the freeway racing to get to the hospital when I could be safe and stay home.<br>
DS had his first exam from a professional and he is perfect as I knew he would be.I enjoyed telling the Dr how I took care of the cord.My scale was waaaaay off.I think he was at least 7 lbs when born and now he is at 8lbs 5 ozs.<br>
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Unreal! Like your word isn't good enough! This is one of my biggest pet pieves.<br><br>
Here the mother has to have a "witness" to the birth like her husband to sign to get the BC. They hate it when a mom births alone with not witness. hehehe<br><br>
Glad you got it all straightened out and things are rolling along smoothly now.
 

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I am so not looking forward to wrangling the BC!<br><br>
But I also think with the world we live in that even though this is a pain, it also helps prevent crime. How many more moms would be killed for their babies, or babies stolen in other ways, if people knew it was really easy to get a birth certificate?
 

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That's one of the requirements here. Very frustrating. And all the paperwork has to be in within 14 days. I hate the rush.
 

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I was shocked at how easy it was to get my UC baby's BC. But I was thinking, in this day and age, could you not get a DNA test? I wonder how much that costs. I'd rather get some blood drawn at a private lab for that then go see an MD. Call me crazy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I was shocked at how easy it was to get my UC baby's BC. But I was thinking, in this day and age, could you not get a DNA test? I wonder how much that costs. I'd rather get some blood drawn at a private lab for that then go see an MD. Call me crazy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"></div>
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Here in Canada about 10 years ago my now ex husband wanted a DNA test of our dd. It cost him 1000.00 to have the test done and it came back 99% conclusive that he was the father<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> not like there was ever a doubt he was trying to get out of child support!
 

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Yikes! $1000 is a lot.<br><br>
I wonder if many docs would provide a letter if they weren't present for the birth.
 

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Crittersmom,<br><br>
did you do prenatal care where you are at now? Or did you do self care?<br><br>
One of the reasons I'm even going to those prenatal care things is so they have a record that I was pregnant, so hopefully that'll help with the BC if I HB.<br><br>
What a hassle...of course anything to do with the govt usually is....
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: this is just nuts.<br><br>
Did you not know before or did the requirements change?<br><br>
Ours was basically easy, just the pp dr tried to hold my sons's medical records hostage..but pesides that it was a piece of cake.<br><br>
those still in the planning stages: it's simplier to walk the line before the baby is born and get your ducks in a row then.. then to try to explain to the system that babies can be born without a dr's awesome presense involved, with a catcher, without beeping machines or hoopla.
 

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In MD 11 and 12 years ago, I needed 2 witnesses, not related to me or to each other, that had seen me pg. It was easy enough to get neighbors to sign the forms for that! Then a home health nurse came to see us and as soon as she saw I was BF she seemed satisfied that I'd given birth and hadn't stolen a baby from anywhere.<br><br>
That seems more reliable than having a dr examine the baby- obviously the baby has been born, and not hatched, but don't they really need proof that the woman claiming to be the mother has just given birth?
 

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We also had to have two witnesses testify that they knew I was pg, and that I was the mother of the baby in question. What really blew my mind was that the affidavit they had to sign claimed that they were 'witness to the the unattended birth'...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: Ummmm....<br><br>
Anyway, one of them backed out of signing when they saw that and the second one said, 'well, if they are that stupid, they can't prosecute me for their own contradiction- they've invalidated their own form- not my problem' and she signed it (bless her heart).<br><br>
Then the city decided that dh could be the other witness, after two months of changing their minds and forms and requirements. Then they wanted our dr to write a letter affrming that I was pg and that I was the mother of the baby. He thought the whole thing was stupid- that involving him after the fact was at the very least administrative negligence on the part of the city; he wrote a letter stating that <i>I had told him</i> that I was pg, that this was my baby and that I was unattended for the birth. He signed it and said, "why couldn't they just ask YOU?"<br><br>
This time will be worse for sure. I'm not looking forward to it. We still don't have all the forms for our third son. On the other hand, ds2 was born in hospital and his registration papers are still not in our possession, although we know that the registration happened.<br><br>
So essentially, we have wasted hours and hours of our time and that of friends to produce what amounts to a lot of paper that 'proves' nothing. What a waste of money (both ours for the fees that paid for the administration that is still not complete, and the $$ that goes to the fifteen people who have still not managed to complete this simple task).<br><br>
I honestly think this would have been easier if we had forged the papers to begin with.<br>
ETA: (not that we would, but seriously, it would be easier since they don't actually look into it anyway)
 
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