[Piper's mama]

Hi Mama's. It's been a long time, and it's crummy that my post is a rant, but I'm really upset and I wanted to share with you guys in the hopes that you will talk some sense into me! Ok-here's the story. I had a close friend attend Lily's birth for 2 reasons. First to video it, but mainly I wanted her to see a natural birth so that she would be inspired to have a VBAC. She was pregnant at the time, and had an "emergency" C-section with her first child (this one will be her 2nd). I knew she didn't have much confidence in her body, so I wanted to show her that she <span style="text-decoration:underline;">can</span> do it. We have talked a lot about her birth experience. About hospital interventions. You know, the whole 9 yards. I never pushed my beliefs on her, I just shared my knowledge and experiences. After Lily was born (her birth was most awesome and Fun!) my friend said she was going to go naturally. She said if I could do it she could! I was so excited, that was my main<br>
reason for wanting her to attend. Well, I have recently (New Years Eve) found out that she has changed her mind, and is now having a <b>scheduled C-section!</b><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banghead.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banghead"> I can't freakin believe it. I am upset because I can't believe that some people <i><span style="text-decoration:underline;">choose</span></i> to be uneducated sheep about birth. I'm sorry that is so harsh, but I'm really pissed off right now. I also feel really ineffective. Like I can't affect any change. I don't know what else I could have done. I failed. And now my friend and her sweet one will be in the hands of an OB with a knife. What a crappy situation.

 

[quinbearzmama]

Hey mama-<br>
My heart goes out to you because I too have been in your situation. You need to know that you didn't fail. Unfortunately you cannot force your friend to do what, in your heart and mind, you know is best...and she may very well regret her decision after her own birth. Would you be comfortable asking her why she is making such a decision? (especially after witnessing first hand how amazing natural birth is?) Keep up the good fight and don't give up being an agent for positive change. Even if this one gets by, there are plenty of others who will appreciate and value your experience and knowledge. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">

 

[maciascl]

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Rather than stewing in your upset, I would talk to her about it. She could possible have a valid reason. They are few & far between, but they are out there <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">