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I spent $10 yesterday on ezboard<br>
today $45 on flowers for dh to apologize ( yes he is worth it but still I planned on spending no $ today but yesterday was a doozie)<br><br>
I will be spending some $$ friday as I am providing the salad while friend does the meal. This is great just more $$<br><br>
I have some $$ that was put aside three weeks ago for a family outing on Saturday. I had really wanted to go to this but am soo re thinking it even though we need to get out for awhile together..<br><br>
I am having a coronary because I added up our meds and we are spending 18% of paycheck on scrips-this is with herbs to stay off what we can and with ins copays. Problem is that two of my three tier I can't go one tier that is on the plan because I either have already tried them and had trouble or built up a tolerance.
 

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We got behind on the cable bill (cable+i-net+voip=cheaper than land line phone and dial-up) and it got shut off today. Got behind over the summer, so when I got my financial aid for Fall semester 1/3 of it was already spent.<br>
Just forgot to pay the cable bill.<br><br>
And I got pizza for dinner before class.<br>
And I'm two months late for a dentist appt and we can't afford it, so I'm just avoiding it. (This is bad cuz I am pg now).<br><br>
DH and I are always scrambling from one money crisis to another. We do well on some things (not buying a lot of stuff randomly) but bad at others (paying bills on time, keeping track of money, going over spendign goal on *everything*, from dinner out to grocery bill, to gasoline).<br><br>
It's frustrating cuz we always end up feeling stupid and paying fees and things. We must have paid 300 bucks in overdraft charges in the past year.<br><br>
Thing is, my father always did the money stuff and his mother always did the money stuff. Both of us grew up witht eh expectation that the other one would worry about it. Turns out I mostly do it, since I had my own apartment for a year and he never lived on his own, so I have a bit more of an idea of what is required, but it's still sooooo frustrating.<br><br>
Today I spent half an hour looking for tax returns so I could fill out financial aid paperwork--six months late.<br><br>
I just wish I was a little better at it<br><br>
Just antoher crazy day in our crazy lives! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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mama but to know I am not alone is priceless<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> to both of you!
 

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45$ for flowers- that will die- think of it that way- a homemade card would have meant just as much.<br>
Emilie
 

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Not to make you feel bad, but maybe as food for thought for next time, I have to say I agree with Emilie. My dh would like the card just as much or more than flowers. Or I could think of something else he'd like even better that's free. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blush.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blush"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy">
 

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There are ways of turning your situations around, but you have to be ready/willing to make the changes. It can seem "painful" at first, but it really isn't, and you can do it gradually...I'm a couple years into this, and i'm still working at it. Frugality (for us anyway) seemed to promote a much healthier lifestyle, therefore teaching us to make better choices. That probably doesn't make sense unless you've gone from spender to saver, but it will.<br><br>
Gotta agree about the flowers. Check out a copy of The Tightwad Gazette, the complete edition with all three books into one. That's where I started, and it gave me a whole new respect for a frugal lifestyle. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Once my mom wanted to buy flowers for my dad and asked me to help her order some. She had a $50 budget but those online places had crazy prices and that could only buy a very small basket with no roses, and she wanted roses.<br><br>
I dropped by Costco and grabbed a big bouquet for $15 and arranged them in an old basket I had. DH hand delivered it (He pass by dad's workplace everyday.) and they used the rest of the money for a dinner out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Maybe next time you can buy the cheaper flowers and arrange it yourself. Saves at least 50%.
 

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I wouldn't be able to deliver them though. A chunk of that was delivery to other town fee.<br>
His reaction and mood though from it I can't put a price tag on<br><br>
A handmade card I have tried in the past -it went over like a lead balloon. He hates reading anything these days.<br><br>
I need that happy medium. When I did this before dh complained it was too severe and he didn't work for that. I have a hard time finding the grey/middle line.<br><br>
Thanks for the accountability. It helps!!
 

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or a nice dinner out...<br>
or a new shirt sweater-<br>
or tickets to his favorite team<br>
Anything but flowers....<br>
sorry-<br>
one step at a time!<br>
Emilie
 

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Dh favorite team? He hates sports !<br>
Shirt sweater? He has shirts in my closet I have been trying to get him to fling for FIVE years ( he hasn't worn them and won't but wont get rid)<br><br>
I guess he is weird because he loves red roses :LOL<br>
Next time I think a cheap silk one in a vase around the house!! that will be a lot less!
 
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