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I'm about to scream right now!!!!!!!!!<br><br>
UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<br><br>
I told dh that I needed a break. I love dd, but I'm with her all day 24/7. She even works with me.<br><br>
I just want 1/2 hr 45 min to relax. She's happy so you'd think he'd play with her, but no, he video's her playing with toys in front of her for 5min and then goes and gets on the phone.<br><br>
I'm seriously, UA VIOLATION. I AM ANGRY. I JUST WANT MORE THAN 10 SECONDS TO MYSELF. HE DOES NOTHING TO HELP.<br><br>
UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.
 

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I'm sorry. I feel like this also sometimes. hugs to you mama <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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It's been 40 minutes. If she wasn't nursing to sleep, I'd put her in the car seat and drive. AWAY. I don't know when I'd come back. Most days I tell myself I have to stay for the baby. I know I need to resolve this. now.<br><br>
UGH.<br><br>
And tomorrow he wants to help a female co-worker that's recently divorced.<br><br>
That's nice and all, but what about your wife...maybe she could use a little help, so she doesn't become divorced.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It's been 40 minutes. If she wasn't nursing to sleep, I'd put her in the car seat and drive. AWAY. I don't know when I'd come back. Most days I tell myself I have to stay for the baby. I know I need to resolve this. now.<br><br>
UGH.<br><br><b>And tomorrow he wants to help a female co-worker that's recently divorced.</b><br>
That's nice and all, but what about your wife...maybe she could use a little help, so she doesn't become divorced.</div>
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Help her what, exactly? That sounds pretty strange...or, maybe he's just one of those nice, helps everybody out kind of guys...have you expressed your anger/frustration to him? Perhaps he just doesn't understand how much anger/resentment you are feeling.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Help her what, exactly? That sounds pretty strange...or, maybe he's just one of those nice, helps everybody out kind of guys...have you expressed your anger/frustration to him? Perhaps he just doesn't understand how much anger/resentment you are feeling.</div>
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yep, one of those guys that wants to help everyone. apparently she needs some yard work done.<br><br>
our issues are so big we don't talk about much. especially if anything is bothering us. pretty much if there is a big purple elephant in the room...we'd do whatever it took to talk about the weather...or not talk at all.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> We own an elephant too, I don't ever get breaks either. I know how much this sucks. You'll get your strength back.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">...That's nice and all, but what about your wife...maybe she could use a little help, so she doesn't become divorced.</div>
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<span style="font-family:'Comic Sans MS';"><span style="font-size:medium;"><span>I sure hope you made a point to tell him that!</span></span></span>
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> to you, mama. I feel that way a lot of times, especially when DH is deployed.
 

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I have to be honest... if my BF went over to some recently divorced coworker's house to do yard work, it would be all over for me. But that's me. It just seems a little too suspicious to me.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I have to be honest... if my BF went over to some recently divorced coworker's house to do yard work, it would be all over for me. But that's me. It just seems a little too suspicious to me.</div>
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honestly, that doesn't bother me at all. he has a lot of female friends and I have a lot of male friends. I just look at as I can't imagine him telling me that I can't be friends with one of the guys. I'd be upset...and I wouldn't want to do that to him either.<br><br>
she's actually calling him her 'lawn boy' <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I think it's funny.<br><br>
that's amazingly not something either of us have issues with<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> kind of backwards in a way, but we both have a good mix of friends male and female.<br><br>
I am doing much better tonight...although the issues aren't solved we know we need to work on them. He knows he did something 'wrong' last night because while I was gone all afternoon and evening the dishes are done and his laundry is done and he also did several other tasks that I asked him to do. Sometimes it's just easier to not have the confrontation. If I would've said something last night he would've been defensive and argued and wouldn't have cleaned up the house while I was gone today.<br><br>
Well I'm tired and rambling now so I'll end there. I know I have issues to work through and I can't always make excuses for not dealing with it.
 
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