I super need dh these days

I feel the same way - dh has SO MUCH going on at work right now with no promises of it letting up anytime soon. He works about 55+ hours/ week. This was a HUGE issue in the beginning of the pg but he has really tried to "be here" more. That being said, some days seem SO LONG without him and the weekends just fly by. So I am just trying to hang in here, take it day by day and not take out my frustration on him At thi spoint I am worried that his one week off for the baby will be interupted by work - whcih I am trying to come to terms with

Wow, have fun camping! That sounds great! Hang in there.... you are not alone

I'm not from you ddc, but I had to respond.

I really feel lonely when DH isn't here. He works graveyard, so he's sleeping during the day and leaves for work around 6:15 pm and doesn't get back home until after 7 am. About an hour before he has to leave I start to feel pretty anxious. For a while it was bringing me to tears, but I haven't cried about it in a while. We don't even need to spend all of our time together when he's home. I just like to have him here. I like the option of talking to him whenever I want.

Compounding the anxiety this week, my parents (who live across the street from us) are out of town. So, that means I can't go over to their house and talk if I'm feeling lonely. I hate feeling like this!

mamas!

to you all. I'm not glad you're all feeling the same as I am, but it is really nice to know I'm not alone! I've just been feeling like I did back when I was like 16 when a boyfriend wouldn't pay enough attention to me or whatever, and I'd get all clingy and whiney (okay, I had issues). I finally really laid out my feelings for dh, I felt totally guilty but it had to be done. I don't like to bother him because everything he does is for me and the kids and is totally selfless, other than when he plays basketball but the exercise is good. Much to my amazement, he decided to change a few things! Instead of watching sports and totally ignoring me those few hours he is home, he's only going to watch Seattle teams (he used to watch every team, even collage, and if football, baseball or basketball weren't on he'd watch whatever other sport was out of desperation). Its not that I'm totally against sports, its that he pays more attention to them than to me! But I know he needs to unwind so I've kept somewhat quiet about it... till the other day. Also, I always swore I'd never have a TV in my bedroom. I made that clear when we got engaged, I think TV is poison, esp in the bedroom of a married couple. Well, he had to have the TV. That's what we do every night. Go to bed, I lay there and stare at hime, and he stares at the TV. Then he turns over and goes to sleep. And he thinks there's something wrong with me that I never want to have sex! So, he's decided we won't turn on the TV for at least an hour after going to bed. He's also set aside 2-3 evenings a week when we can all go for a walk together. We went last night and it was really nice. The first exercise I've gotten since my first trimester! So sad. Anyway, I'm hoping these new habits will stick, because our marriage really needs it. Its not that we're doing bad, it just feels distant.

Thanks
My only advice for the blue feelings is lots of fish oil and no sugar. I wish it were easier, the no sugar things has been sooo hard for me, that's where most of my cravings have been this pregnancy! But really all that's helped me is nutrition... I just wish I could remember my supplements more than twice a week. I'm horrible at that, I even leave notes to remind myself. I'm hoping the exercise will help too. People are always saying how great exercise is for depression, but since I've never stuck to it more than a week or two I don't personally know. (Can you tell I'm just a bit bi-polar? )

Oh yeah. But DH totally understands (this seems to happen every time) and just kinda caters to the teary hugs for no reason whatsoever and my increased need to be cuddled and held. His school schedule is giving him more time now so we're really enjoying the time we get!

For the past week he keeps telling me to stop being mean to him... I'm trying SOOOO hard to be nice! I'm afraid he thinks I just want him around for a punching bag or something! He totally doesn't "get" women though and try as I might to explain it, the effects of hormones just doesn't make any sense to him.