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And it is the BEST thing I could have ever done for my son!!!<br><br>
He HATED breastfeeding. He'd push the breast away, scream and scream. Feedings took very, very long to calm him, put him back to the breast, to only have him begin screaming in seconds again, having to calm him, putting him back to the breast, screaming and having to calm him again.<br><br>
I had some good and bad advice. Bad advice: taking away ALL bottles and pacis. I ended up with a baby that was starving himself, and constantly screaming all day long. After a whole day of not eating, you bet I gave that up.<br>
Good advice: take warm baths with him & nurse, skin to skin when feeding expressed milk in a bottle, offer the breast after pumping to aid in let down, 'fool' him by taking bottle away during skin to skin feeding and offer breast. I tried this for over a week, being very gentle and trying to teach him to like the breast again. This did not work either. 1/2 step forward, 2 steps back is what it was, though it was good advice.<br><br>
So, instead of constantly thinkign I was a failure for a mother because I couldn't nurse my own son.. I decided it was time to stop getting depressed, to stop getting frustrated at my son, and to stop starving him! Lol. I am now exclusively pumping. I pump every 3 hrs in the morning, every 2 hrs in the afternoon and evenings. I've increased my supply, even. Since I've given up nursing, he hardly ever screams anymore. We give him his breastmilk bottle, he's happy. He gets cranky and cries when tired, but a nap will fix that. I've gone from a baby that screams for hours every day, to a baby that barely ever screams, simply by switching to exclusively pumping.<br><br>
So, to all those mamas that had the same problem as me, don't be discouraged. Don't think of exclusively pumping as a bad thing. It isn't. Fact is, you can snuggle your baby 24/7 (not just when breastfeeding), and your baby is STILL getting the best nutrition he can get - the end result is everyone is happier, especially baby, and that is what is most important.
 

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I've EP'd for each of my babies. The first time I just didn't have any support or advice on what to do when my DS refused the breast at 4 days old so I started EP'ing then. The second time around, DD was a preemie and spent 10 days in the NICU after birth so our nursing relationship was rocky from the start although I did successfully nurse her for a while until she started refusing to do so because daycare switched her bottle nipple to a faster flow. Sigh. Let me just say that nursing is alot more convenient and having done both, my first choice is definitely feeding baby from the tap. However, EP'ing has its place and is a good alternative like you said. I don't know how old your baby is but I just wanted to encourage you to try nursing again when you get through this rough patch. After EP'ing for several weeks for my DD, I decided to try nursing again when she was around 12 weeks old and she did great for a while and it was so much easier than when she was younger. So just know that nursing your baby is still an option later on if you want to try it again. It sure as heck beats washing bottles and pump parts everyday!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> that is exactly what my DS did when dealing with silent reflux. I did try bottle feeding some, but he would scream at the bottle too. Once we had the reflux diagnosed and had him on medication the screaming stopped. Just something to think about, in case your DS is still showing signs of reflux.
 

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i dont mean this to discourage you by any means but now that your supply is increased and im sure your letdown got better he may take the breast...
 
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