I wouldn't pin him as a cheater yet either.
I am trying to improve myself/my home at the moment... I have always dreamed of pumping iron to feel the strength of my own body... so I do want to improve my bod, but NOT to catch another man! I love my family.
And... getting into ruts, losing romance, ESPECIALLY while raising small children is common. Same here... my house is a clutter zone (causing DH to be
: sad about it) so I'm on an "improvement" mission... improve everything... the house, me... yada, yada... I'm going to be the happiest, best person I can be, and I hope that my buzz will inspire him too. I can't see how it can't.
A lot of the threads on MDC I read about DH's... being unemployed or just at home and depressed, driving the mom nuts. At least your husband isn't like that... I hope he can see the bright side of life and work towards making your lives better.
and if you are feeling low... do something for yourself to get yourself out of it. If you are feeling great, then that makes you more attractive. What were you like before you got married and had children? What made you attractive to him? What made you happy? Have you done those things lately? Why not? Can you fit time to do stuff that brightens you up?