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I really don't know where to put this or where to start.<br><br>
I have never been close to over weight... honestly I've always been under weight. But I don't eat like normal people. I'll go all day and not eat anything and have no desire to eat. A few weeks ago it changed and I wanted to eat and eat, but I got over that.<br><br>
When dh says something about being hungry or wanting something to eat I get mad. I don't know why but do. Growing up my mother would always tell me that I'm not going to be tiny after I had children and that I was going to become over weight like my aunts. I have a fear of becoming over weight and I don't know if that is what keeps me from eating or what. I'm so confused. I get all emotional when I think about eating and not eating. It is not like I try not to eat or anything I just don't think about it.<br>
I don't want to put this on my children. I feel bad for dh because i don't understand why he has to eat 3 meals a day plus snacks. I don't want to take the time out for food. What is wrong with me?
 

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Sounds like your emotions are tied to food in some way. I have battled something similar, except I was using food to numb my emotions. I went to counseling with a behavioral psychologist. It really, really helped me to separate food from my emotions. I'm not sure this is exactly what you're doing, but it sort of sounds like it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Food issues are so hard! It's truly painful to think about, let alone talk about.
 

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hey mama,<br><br>
i think a counselor might be the best route to take. a good friend of mine (also usually underweight, also had a mom who would talk about her body, etc) is in recovery from acute anorexia, and her beginning issues sound a lot like yours (getting mad when people tell you to eat, not understanding why others need to eat so often) and eventually, she started the crazy fasting/exercising/purging/ general food weirdness that goes along wtih anorexia, and it wasn't until she passed out at the gym (fell off the elliptical, injured her rotator cuff and her knee) that she finally decided to seek out some help. it's good that you know your behavior isn't normal, so i'd seek out the talk therapy sooner rather than later. (cuz kids take energy. and energy requires calories. if it's my kid, like, 3 big macs worth of calories, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> )<br><br>
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Thank you for you kind words. It is really hard to read this and think about it and talk about it. I get really upset and just want to cry. It is going to take a lot to talk to someone, but I will try. I'm getting all tense just sitting here thinking about it.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Thank you for you kind words. It is really hard to read this and think about it and talk about it. I get really upset and just want to cry. It is going to take a lot to talk to someone, but I will try. I'm getting all tense just sitting here thinking about it.</div>
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yeah. i dig that. but it's best in the long run, yeah? set a good example and all.<br><br>
nak.
 

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<span>See a loving nutritionist then if that does not work seek out a shrink.... I believe if you question needing help get it and if it is a waste then you will have closed that chapter.<br><br>
Good luck!</span>
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Thank you for you kind words. It is really hard to read this and think about it and talk about it. I get really upset and just want to cry. It is going to take a lot to talk to someone, but I will try. I'm getting all tense just sitting here thinking about it.</div>
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Keep in mind that a psychologist who specializes in behavioral medicine will understand you and will not judge you. Also, it's okay to cry at therapy sessions! My first one was very difficult, but I felt so much better afterward. Each one has gotten easier. I know exactly how you feel. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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