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She's 19 months old, and we've held on until the third trimester. It has just gotten soooo painful. The left side is still bearable, but the right feels like she's nursing with knives in her mouth.<br><br>
We're down to just 1-2 times a day, but she is super attached to those times. When I cut her off because the pain is too bad she just sobs and sobs and in inconsolable. I'm at such a loss.<br><br>
I was going to be ok with tandem nursing and really wanted her to nurse until she's 2, but I don't know if I can make it.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying">
 

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I weaned both of mine around 20 months or so due to pregnancy. The first didn't even notice the change. DD2 however was a little more reluctant. She quickly contented herself with just having her hands down my top when she was upset or falling asleep.<br><br>
I would have went crazy from the pain if I had tried to continue. You do what you have to do.
 

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It's great you have made it so far. I weaned DD, at 24 months, in my first tri!<br>
DD too was very attached and cried heartbreakingly if I refused her to nurse. I really wanted her to choose to end nursing, rather than me ending it, so I hastened her 'choice' by painting my nipples with that 'Stop suck' stuff you use to stop kids thumbsucking. It tastes AWFUL but doesn't hurt (and didn't hurt my nipples).<br><br>
DD cried a lot the first time she tasted it on me, but I think that was about the taste - if I used it again for the first time I'd quickly offer a drink or snack to take the taste, and the fright, away. She's pretty much avoided my boobs ever since. Occasionally she asks to nurse and then I go to the bathroom, paint it on, and offer her the breast - she takes a tiny, cautious suck and then decides it's still 'broken.'
 

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I know what you mean about the pain. I'm still nursing DD (3) and lately one side is terrible! The only thing that has helped is being very careful about our nursing position. Used to be she could nurse anywhere, anytime, and it wouldn't hurt (it was like Green Eggs and Ham...would you nurse on a boat? In a coat? Standing up? Upside down? Everywhere around the town?...) Now we ONLY do lying down nursing because every other position hurts like daggers. Even side laying now I realized I can only do the breast on the side she is on. If she wants the other side she has to climb over me, because my old "flop the other one to an available position" results in terrible nipple pain.<br><br>
I'll admit I've taken to partially weaning her. I only let her nurse for the time of one snooze alarm (7 min), each side, and only in the AM when my tired brain seems less prone to notice the pain. I think we will make it, but sometimes I wonder.<br><br>
Good luck. And remember, even if you wean her now, it doesn't mean she can't have nursies back after the new baby comes (if you want).
 

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oh Elizabeth, i feel your pain! DS is 24 months and i've had to cut him WAY back. it's been hard, but i feel it was necessary. he is down to a couple of times a day and those times are very short. he's taken to "cuddling" after i tell him that's all....meaning he lays his head on my boob like a pillow!<br><br>
it's hard, but may be better for her in the long run vs. feeling like nursing is hurting mommy...<br><br>
xoxo<br>
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I cut my toddler down to once a day by 21 months, and even that was mostly because it was the only was I could get him to nap (I was at the end of my second trimester). The last day he nursed was my due date, the day before his second birthday. The baby was born 5 days later and it didn't occur to him to go back to nursing. It worked for us, that's what I could handle.<br><br>
My friend's daughter barely nursed towards the end of her next pregnancy (baby was born when #1 was 25 months) and she ended up tandem nursing for 6 months or so.<br><br>
If you want to tandem nurse but need to wean for your sanity now, it can probably happen.
 

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My little guy (almost 21 months) has cut back to mainly just middle of the night, or help him fall back asleep nursing. I feel bad b/c I'm actually a little relieved as yes, it has hurt quite a bit recently. Maybe he'll pick back up once she's here, but I think for right now we've both decided we're weaning slowly. And as long as he's okay with that, I'm okay, too. You make the best choice you can with what you know, and there's never anything wrong about that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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Thanks ladies. It's so hard to think of our nursing relationship coming to an end! I never thought I would be so emotionally connected to it.<br><br>
This morning was a lot easier. She didn't see me until after she had eaten breakfast, so she wasn't starving and didn't try to nurse for half an hour. It also doesn't seem to be as painful in the morning as it does in the afternoon for the after-nap session. Maybe I just have more milk in the a.m.?<br><br>
I'll see if maybe I can distract her with snacks after nap time and get her to drop that session all together.
 

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I'm so glad I'm not the only one. I feel terrrible even considering it, because he's so addicted and he still will barely eat any solids. I've been trying to soldier on but we are down to just naps and bed times as well. My poor left boob feels like it's being chewed off. I'm pretty sure I'm going to at least put the 1 out of commission for now. (mines 19 months too btw) I just don't want to less up the chance of tandem nursing either.<br><span style="font-size:xx-small;"><i>Posted via Mobile Device</i></span>
 

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Do what you have to do. Seriously. I find that I get more sore as the day goes on too. Later in the day I tell her that she can't nurse right now because my nipples hurt and she takes that pretty well.<br><br>
Nursing is awesome and wonderful, and if it is causing you pain not so awesome and not so wonderful. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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