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We didn't start co-sleeping with DS from the very start, but when we realized how well he slept and how much I loved it, we stuck with it. I have always tried to make sure DH is on board 100% because it just doesn't work if someone in the family bed resents it and he's been all for it. Well, we were at my MIL's and she was showing me the crib she has set up there for the times we're over for long periods or if she babysits. Then she got to asking about our nursery at home and I told her we don't really have anything set up since DS sleeps with me. The conversation basically turned to "It's time to get that boy in a bed on his own" and DH was agreeing with her!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I'm not sure if he was just saying that so he didn't have to argue with her since it's something that she would never change her mind on but has no control over or if he really agrees with her. I've just been dreading bringing it up, especially since after we got home, DH commented how he's worried about DS rolling off the bed. (He sleeps in the middle, btw)<br><br>
I don't intend to co-sleep for a long time, maybe to a year probably less, but almost 4 months is far from that! I guess I just need some assurance that what I'm doing is a good thing so I can have a backbone and find out what DH really thinks and put to rest any legitimate worries.
 

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You should definitely talk about this. Your husband may well have been humoring his Mom. Re: the fear of babe falling out of bed, we have always put away the frame and had a mattress on the floor when we had a wee one. Also, sometimes everyone sleeps best when the dad is in a different bed.
 

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Sarah, I didn't plan on cosleeping AT ALL when I was pregnant.<br><br>
Joey had other ideas though <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> The first night, after she was born, DH brought her into bed, handed her to me and we all went to sleep.<br><br>
There are times that I think it is so time to get over this co-sleeping stuff, but those times are usually at 3am when she reaches out to grab my hand and instead, scratches my face. Which is my own fault because I'm so bad with cutting her nails <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Anyway, I check with my husband periodically to make sure he's still on board. I think that he's looking forward to Joey sleeping in her own bed, but that he totally understands that it's what we need to do right now. If I had to get up and get her when seh woke up to eat, I'd lose my mind. Not to mention that I think she wakes up more when she's on her own than she does when she's next to me.<br><br>
If DH is really concerned about DS rollng off the bed (and it is a real concern, don't poo-poo it. I mean, even if it would NEVER happen, it 'could' and if that's his concern, it needs to be addressed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">), you can get guard rails, OR you can do what we did and just put you bed against a wall and line the wall with pillows. Joey generally sleeps on the side by the wall, so if she were going to crawl out of bed, she'd have to get over me, and then DH, too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Good luck! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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If it becomes an issue, make sure that dh knows that if your ds sleeps out of your bed, he WILL be the one bringing you that child for middle-of-the-night feedings, and he WILL be taking his turn in the middle of the night comforting a crying child who wishes he was with his mama in bed. Make sure he realizes that this delightful sleeping through the night he's been doing is going to stop if that child leaves your bed at such a young age.<br><br>
I know *my* husband likes sleeping. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> I bet yours does, too.
 

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I agree with the others about bringing it up with your DH privately, making sure you guys are still on the same page.<br><br>
Like others, I hadn't planned on cosleeping before DS was born, I had a pack-n-play set up in our room for him. Well, DS has other plans and we closlept exclusively until DS was 16 months, at which point he made it abundantly clear that he was ready to sleep by himself.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: This is what convinced my DH. One night of having to get up to bring DD to me, and he was completely on-board!
 

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Just thought I'd make a suggestion regarding this part. When our children were little, I religiously used a bed rail to ensure that the baby did not roll off the bed. It worked really well. Sometimes I'd be in the middle, sometimes the baby would be, since I would nurse laying down and would alternate breasts (so the baby would change which side of me he/she was on).<br><br><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2Fexec%2Fobidos%2Ftg%2Fdetail%2F-%2FB0000E0JDV%2Fqid%3D1142971123%2Fbr%3D1-5%2Fref%3Dbr_lf_ba_5%2F%2F104-8322062-3383920%3Fv%3Dglance%26s%3Dbaby%26n%3D548058" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg...=baby&n=548058</a><br><br>
Umm, and as a PP (whose post I can no longer find) mentioned, while baby sleeps on one end of the bed, there are gentle, quiet, barely moving ways to fulfill that desire while you keep an eye on baby to make sure she is sleeping.<br><br>
Or what about in the shower? Do you have an exersaucer baby could play in or a crib/playpen she could play in while you two take a shower together?<br><br>
Why wait until baby is asleep?
 

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i agree with kalirush.<br><br>
most dh's seem to want sleep more than caring about where baby sleeps.<br><br>
definitely talk to him and see if you are on the same page.<br><br>
you are doing a great thing for your baby and yourself. it's a PIA to get out of bed to get to a crying baby and then sit down to nurse them. i know i did it with dd. it sucked.<br><br>
hooray for the family bed <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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