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...and I'm not ready<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">. I really wanted to make it to at least 2. He's never been a super booby baby though he likes it well enough. In the past couple of months, he's down to about 3-4 nursing sessions a day steady. I WOH and I always nurse first thing in the morning, as soon as I get home from work (about 3 ish), then before dinner, then again at bedtime. Of course if he needs another session he can have it.<br><br>
But in the past 2 weeks or so, he is really fussing at the breast at the bedtime session a lot. He'll latch and suckle for maybe 2 minutes or so and then arch and squirm to get down. He will not nurse to sleep anymore and that was always a sure thing. Part of it is that he's been in a daddy mood lately and he's trying to stay up to wait for DH to get home.<br><br>
The morning session is still fine. The 2 day sessions are so so . He'll latch on and off for 10 minutes because he's too into playing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">. He never asks (non verbally because he's not verbal) for nummies at all. I've always anticipated his need to nurse in the past and I've continued to do so. I feel like if I never offer it, he'd never ask and that makes me sad.<br><br>
So does this sound like a stage that will pass or is he possibly trying to wean? I hear about all these toddlers who nurse constantly and here I am with the guy that would rather have chicken!<br><br>
Any words of wisdom?
 

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My suggestion is keep offering and offer more often when possible like weekends and evenings. My dd doesn't love nursing like her big brother did and sometimes it has been more difficult to keep her going but I know she needs breastmilk. Sometimes I have to tuck away to a quiet place so she can not be distracted for a few minutes.
 

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Personally, if he's 14 months, eating well and doesn't want the boob as often, then I'd let him lead. Offer at the usual times but don't push it. I'm uncomfortable with forcing a toddler to bf. (Not suggesting you will but that's often the advice given.)
 

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Until baby's immune system is developed, I look at breastfeeding the same way as vegetables, fruit or some other important food group. Baby <i>needs</i> it for health, so just like any other food group, I'd keep offering. Just like other food groups, you can offer, but not make baby take it, but if they refuse for a day or two we don't stop offering veggies, and in my opinion breastmilk is just as important at this age.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My suggestion is keep offering and offer more often when possible like weekends and evenings. My dd doesn't love nursing like her big brother did and sometimes it has been more difficult to keep her going but I know she needs breastmilk. Sometimes I have to tuck away to a quiet place so she can not be distracted for a few minutes.</div>
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I'll do this. I notice he does get super distracted if DH is in the room so we'll try going in the bedroom.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Personally, if he's 14 months, eating well and doesn't want the boob as often, then I'd let him lead. Offer at the usual times but don't push it. I'm uncomfortable with forcing a toddler to bf. (Not suggesting you will but that's often the advice given.)</div>
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He does eat pretty well. I really wanted to get him through the winter because both DH and I work in high risk fields. I'm a nurse and DH is a counselor who works with lots of kids and teens. We're careful as far as preventive measures but I really want him to have breastmilk for the best protection. I'd never force him though.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Until baby's immune system is developed, I look at breastfeeding the same way as vegetables, fruit or some other important food group. Baby <i>needs</i> it for health, so just like any other food group, I'd keep offering. Just like other food groups, you can offer, but not make baby take it, but if they refuse for a day or two we don't stop offering veggies, and in my opinion breastmilk is just as important at this age.</div>
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That's a great point and one I'll keep in the front of my mind, thanks!
 

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My daughter did this several times and I felt just like you do. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
For us, it turned out to be a phase thing and she ended up nursing until she was almost 4. I would say just keep offering consistently like you always have but try to reduce the distractions around him when you nurse. We also did alot of sips on the run while she was playing.<br><br>
Good luck and keep it up!
 

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DD has done this several times as she is getting bigger. I sometimes have to take her into a dark and quiet room for nursing. I don't think babies are really ready to wean at that age. good luck
 
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