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i think my 29 mo dd is weaning! i'm in shock!!! she LOVES her nursies more then anything (last week she wanted to nurse instead of eating ice cream!!!) i'm happy for her and kindof wanted this (i'm nursing a 5 mo as well), but... i'm sad too. it's bittersweet. i guess i'm going to have alot of these moments in my kids lives, huh? i lost my milk during pg with ds, since the baby's birth, she's not liked the idea that there's something coming out of my breasts. if she sees the milk come out, she'll look at it like "ewww! yuck!" and say "i don't like milk", but she loves nursing so much, she nursed anyway. well yesterday, she said, "i don't like nursies... i don't like milk. i don't want to nurse ". at first i was like "what?! yes you do" but she felt bad and i could tell this was hard for her, so i said "it's ok, honey, that's why mommy has other things for you to drink. and mommy doesn't have to nurse you for you to be close to mommy. i could hold you, hug you, cuddle with you, kiss you... lots of other things." last night was the first time in her little life she did not nurse to sleep! then this morning, she wanted a cup of milk instead of nursing! (can you tell i'm still in shock?!) she keeps coming up to me and saying "i don't want to nurse" i keep reassuring her that it's ok to feel this way. she's been more clinging then usual, so I've been giving lots of hugs today. i feel like i want to cry! (ok, i already did!) thanks for listening!<br>
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Wow -- I was both sad and envious when reading your post.<br>
How bittersweet this must be for you. I even teared up a bit.<br><br>
My DS loves nursies more than anything on earth and I would be sad if he said he didn't want them anymore.<br>
Ironically, I'm also trying to gently/slowly wean him because I'm often extremely frustrated with the constant nursing.<br><br>
Can you tell I'm having an little internal battle of my own?<br><br>
Anyway, it sounds like you're doing the best thing by helping DD feel good about her decision to not nurse, and giving her extra physical contact. Congratulations on nursing for so long and for tandem nursing (something truly amazing to me).
 

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Wow!! That is so interesting how she's just decided she doesn't want to nurse anymore! I think for lots of mothers, if not most, that have a positive view of breastfeeding (that is more than just food) feel that bittersweet feeling when weaning happens. It's like you're excited to move on, but then sad b/c you don't have that "special" thing that only the two of you share. Or if your baby is younger, it's that he doesn't need you for food anymore. I know I definitely felt that w/ James. I was sad about it but then happy too. He weaned around 13-14m. I think he would still be nursing if he didn't have a pacifier addiction (weaning from that wasn't fun--or bittersweet for that matter! Just *great*). Anyway, just wanted to say congrats that you have such a sweet, independant dd, and that you are not alone in kind of mourning the loss of that special connection.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> to you!
 

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I found your post!!!<br>
Just wanted to say thanks for all the kind words and encourgement you PM'd me. This post makes me think about when ds won't want to nurse anymore and despite it all, it makes me really sad too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 
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