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She actually didn't freak out!! I was honestly surprised. I hadn't planned on telling her(my family thought that I was using a midwife as originally planned), but today she asked me, "So what will you do when you go into labor? When do you have the midwife come?" etc. And I just couldn't make myself straight up lie to her, it is hard enough to lie to the WIC people and lactation consultants! I feel stupid and uncomfortable when I lie.....It just isn't me and if I had no worries about CPS, negativity, etc. I would tell the world. And maybe I will anyways. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
But yeah, she didn't say anything for a sec and I was like, "I know you probably think it's weird, but I just think that I will be the most comfortable with just me and DP here, and besides, the ER is like 3 minutes away."<br><br>
And she said, "No, its what you want to do and if its right for you...."<br><br>
And she said NOTHING negative at all! She just offered to come during my labor if I need her.(thanks but no thanks <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">) I was so pleasantly surprised. LOL though, prolly part of it was that she knows me and knows it wouldn't matter to me if she disagreed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> But I appreciated it. DP's family thinks that even a homebirth with a CNM is deadly dangerous lol. And don't even get me started on my dad-" You need to be at the hospital with an OB who is trained in surgery!!" etc. etc. He can be sooo rude. You should've heard him when I said something about eating the placenta. He honestly doesn't like me and disagrees with every decision I have ever made.. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Well..... that was longer than I meant I guess I ended up venting....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Well for those that read thanks for listening!!!!!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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That's great. My mother was surprisingly supportive when we dropped out midwifery care with #3. surprising since she and the rest of my family are from / work in the medical field, you know , the land of no intuition! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Best wishes- enjoy your pregnancy- maybe it will be a nice bonding time with your mom, it was for me.
 
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