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i'm pg with #3 & we have 2 dds already....and my dh has an older dd, as well. i know i will love whatever comes our way but my gut really wants a boy! why? for the experience, the newness, the variety...i don't know!? also, my brother & wife are expecting their first baby any day now & they're having a boy. i just think it would be fun to have little boy cousins. with my previous pregnancies i had no strong wishes either way & was actually quite excited to have a second girl because i knew they would forever have sisters which is an amazing experience. this desire to have a boy is a totally new thing for me & sometimes i feel guilty even thinking it.
 

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I understand, b/c I had a girlfriend who had all boys and had such a desire for a little girl. I think it's the desire to have both. I have one of each and want another of each one, for a different reason. I want another girl, so dd can have a sister (forever friend...) and i want another boy b/c I always had a "feeling" that i'm meant to have another boy and name him Jack. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br>
I know you must feel bad to say it, but it's a common feeling to have (to want the sex you don't already have), people just don't like to talk about it!
 

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It's not any worse than me saying I really want this baby to be a girl.<br><br>
I have a 13 yr old son.<br><br>
I have a 9 yr old daughter.<br><br>
I am just so not prepared to raise another boy. My son--a smart, good, capable boy--has been 100% more difficult to raise and relate to than my daughter. Boys are so much more physical and rambunctious and wild--and that's not a bad thing, but I have a pretty intense anxiety problem that gets really bad in high-noise, loud, rambunctious settings...and I'm afraid I'll come unglued if I have to raise another boy...especially with my rough and tumble husband to go along with it.<br><br>
Of course, I'll be shooting myself in the foot by saying this because I'll end up having a little girl who is this off-the-chain wild child. LOL
 

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I want a boy too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> It's really awful to feel that way. Of course I love my little girls and I'll love my new little girl if she's a girl with all my heart and then some. But I want a little boy. Really really badly. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> So, to answer your question, I don't think it's bad to feel that at all. It's a perfectly natural feeling, IMO. My feeling of wanting a boy is something I would only express online and to my husband. I will be very careful to never express that wish in front of my children especially. But feeling it is okay. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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It's okay to want a boy/girl right up until you find out you actually have a girl/boy.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
And yeah, keep it to yourself, your dh, and people online.
 

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No, boys are great,& I kept going till I had one. Now I'd like another!! Just try not to let your girls know.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I would not feel awful about wanting a specific gender! I am pregnant and really want a girl. I realized a while ago that it was not so much wanting a girl as wanting a <i>daughter</i>. I have one son and adore him dearly. I love our mother/son relationship. I look forward to having a girl one day and also experiencing a mother/daughter relationship. So I say, don't feel guilty!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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thanks for all the support & wise words, all! good advice to keep it low, though, and especially from my girls. maybe once i surrender to the fact that it's ok to want a son, i'll stop having all these dreams that i'm giving birth to girls!?
 

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I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I'm not yet pregnant again, but when I am I want another boy so badly....right now I don't want any girls at all. I love boys. When we are reading to start trying for #2 we're going to work on doing the Shettles method to increase the chances of another boy even.....but if it turns out to be a girl she will be loved for sure!
 

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I don't think it's wrong. I looooove my two boys, and I wouldn't mind having 10 or 15 boys --they are such fun! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: But, I would like at least one daughter. I can always hope.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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I'm there with you guys--I have a very sweet and strong dd, I just can't imagine a 'rowdy boy'...but my mom assures me that there is nothing sweeter than a sweet little boy...<br>
SO...I really don't mind which sex we end up with--but, truth be told, I LOVE our girl name (Kyle Renae) more than the boy (Tyler Julian--TJ)...so if names are a determining factor....<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
hehehe
 

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2 years ago I was in just your situation. I had 2 dds, ages 19 and 2 and I really wanted a boy just to see what it's like to raise a boy. We did not find out the sex of the baby when I was pregnant with #3 because I was afraid if I found out it was a girl I would be disappointed and the baby would somehow sense it. I knew that after the baby was born that I'd love her no matter what, if it turned out to be a girl.<br><br>
My 3rd pregnancy was very different than the other two. I never had morning sickness with the first two, I had it with the third. I carried differently, I felt differently, etc.<br><br>
She is a girl. I still feel a bit badly that I will never experience raising a boy, but of course I wouldn't trade my sweet dd for a boy. I love having 3 girls! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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nak<br>
i always wanted my first child to be a boy. not that i dont someday want a girl, but to me boys are easier and i wanted to start easy<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
i think that most people at one time or another have a prefrence, though not all admit it
 

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It's fine to feel anyway that you do. I admit I wanted a girl. I didn't tell anyone. I admit I wanted a 2nd girl when I got my first. I still didn't tell anyone and I'm having DD #2 next week.<br><br>
SOmething to keep in mind. They are only a "girl" or a "boy" for about 30 seconds--- and then they become a person! (words of wisdom from my mom)
 
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