Beth-TX, good response. I always joke that the point of midwives is to protect the furniture and clean up afterwards! (Implying that the birthing part is so natural & do-able by the laboring woman, the midwives will focus on other things!)
Eilonwy, your fear and concern and desire for a c-section are all wonderful things, in my opinion--because they are powerful motivators to inspire you to learn and discover what kind of birth you want to create this time.
You are not destined to suffer again, your choices are not limited to an epidural or a scheduled c-section.
Time to think hard, over the next few weeks and months, about exploring the WHYS for your current thoughts.
WHY do you want a scheduled c-section? A bigger, deeper, more profound question than it may at first seem. There are lots of practical bits of advice and information to gather from the replies on this thread (i.e., 2nd labors are faster, midwives will clean up your homebirth, etc.) but those might not be the only answers you're looking for.
Indeed, the book
Birthing from Within
by Pam England and Rob Horowitz is a fantastic tool for all pregnant women, espeically gals in your situation.
With my first baby, I watched every episode of A Baby Story, Birth Day, Maternity Ward, and Labor & Delivery. I read evey OB textbook I could check out of my University of Minnesota's Biomedical Library. When my OB suggested a scheduled inductin of labor for convience
I jumped at it. I had just what I wanted, I got my epidural, my baby came out fine, etc, etc.
But now I know what I really wanted: control over my own body and my own labor. By choosing the elective induction, I bypassed ALL SORTS of nonsense that is so typical of the hospital birth, like, am I dialated enough to be admitted to the hospital, will the give me Pit, will my OB be there, will I get my drugs in time? etc, etc. I was a little more in control of whhat would happen to me. Scheduled c/sec moms DO get to help pick the day, there's some control in that.
Birth in American hospitals is painful, agonizing, barbaric, unnatural, and unholy. All the crap done to a woman in the name of a vaginal birth DOES make a scheduled c-section look like a complete and total pleasant idea. (Of course, the stats about the complications that arise from c/sec births would make anyone think quite seriously about choosing such drastic surgery.)
However, you are not limited by the limitations of your local hospital's maternity ward. As you learn more and post here and address your concerns, you will discover a WIDE array of choices and options that empower you, and with that empowerment I guarantee
you a much less painful labor, birth, & recovory.
There are many things--homebirth, a doula, a certified nurse-midwife, a different hospital in your area you don't yet know about, and your own perspective--that will yield a happy 'n' fun labor and birth for you.
What I wanted for my births was the same for my first hospital birth and my second birth at home. I wanted respect from my birth attendants, control over my own body, and a birth that is the least painful. Within the confining choices available to my at the hospital, I made my first birth choices out of fear. Within the broad array of options available to me when I took charge (instead of giving the power to my OB) I had a wonderful birth in every way, and fear was no longer my birthing companion.
Remember, people pick homebirth because they know it is the safest choice! Not 'cause they think endangering their newborn baby is fun, or because they have a death wish, or because all that organic granola has gone to their masochistic heads.
Blessings and good luck to you.