Well, do you have a diagnosis? I don't want to downplay the situation, but my 12 y o dss has also grown moody and emotional lately. I figured it was puberty. If I don't want to drive him to Walmart to get a new binder at 9 PM, he pouts and implies that I don't like him. I think it puberty, becoming a teen, and the self-centered view point that often comes with it. My dh assures me that he hated his mom and stepmom equally when he was 12 <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> . It is hard to separate normal teen moodiness, added stress of puberty, and things like bipolar disorder.<br><br>
I did read somewhere that the pain of divorce hits kids twice-- once when it happens (assuming they are young), then they have a period of relative calm adjustment, then it hits them again at adolescence and it is almost as painful the second time.
I think the counselling is a great idea. If your DSD is suggesting that, why not take her? IMHO counselling works much better over the long term than medication. Just my personal experience.<br><br>
PS. DSD = Dear Step Daughter<br>
DSS = Dear Step Son
I have a 13 year old dd and it sounds like we have the same issues. Although I wouldn't say she has bipolar she's a teen and she has big issues with her bio dad. So everything my dh does is a major upset for her. I can't do anything right most days either. I have had her in counselling but we can't seem to find the right fit in a counsellor for her. It does spike really bad at pms times.<br>
I feel for ya mama! Most days I feel like I'm white knuckling it till she's older.