I don't have any advice. I'm just right here with you. Our oldest two were sleeping together in their room with no trouble for about a year and a half, and now we either have to lie with them to get them to sleep, or like right now, they are both asleep on the floor in my room. An extended family member inadvertently showed them a part in a really scary movie, and it really set back any and all progress they had made. We've done our best to be really gentle and patient, but it's been hard. It's been 2 months now since the incident, and they're still not over it. I don't know what to do! I just read " unconditional parenting " for the first time, and that has really helped me to put the whole issue into perspective, and realize they're just kids and they'll let me know when they're ready to take some steps. It's really been two steps forward one step back for us lately. That's actually why I'm awake right now, because they both woke up and wanted to come in my room, and now I can't fall back to sleep!