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Hi all. DS is 9 months old and I would really like to night-wean. I'm tired of having to nurse him back to sleep several times a night or him insisting on having a boob in his mouth all night long. DH just got back from a month of training and the whole time he was gone, it was just easier to nurse him to sleep and every time he woke up. Now DH and DS are sleeping in another room half of every night. It's the only way DS will sleep. If he's in the same room as me, he'll freak out until I nurse him. He used to sleep really well, and he was sleeping through the night regularly. Now I have to stay downstairs until DS is asleep and sleep by myself half the night (which gets really lonely and I'm sure DH is tired of it). Any tips for getting my kiddo to go to sleep and stay to sleep? TIA!
 

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Hey mama! I hear ya! I am a pretty attached parent, but boy that night nursing stuff got old. I hear that some moms don't even wake up to night nurse, but that was never the case for me. I nightweaned at a year.<br><br>
Here is what I would suggest: read the good ole No Cry Sleep Solution FIRST. There are lots of good tips in there. I read it AFTER, grrr.<br><br>
Here is what I did:<br>
I noticed that one of my LLL friends who is NEVER without her boy and always cosleeps nightweaned. I thought, if she can, I can. I love cosleeping but NOT all night dining. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/upsidedown.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="upsidedown"><br><br>
Then....<br>
I evaluated which nursings dd was really EATING at and which ones she was just getting back to sleep. I kept the 1 am nursing, because she would really nurse. But I decided the 3:30 and 5:30 were bunk. So I'd go to bed w/dd and dh, nurse at 1 am (BUT NOT IN BED ANYMORE, ONLY IN THE ROCKING CHAIR) and then go sleep in another room. So at 3:30 am dd wakes up and dh comforts her. He tries patting her for abut 30 seconds, then he likes to change her diaper, go to the bathroom and get her a drink. He always feels that crying must stem from a wet diaper (whatever!). The first night dh went through his routine dd snuffled and snorted around for me and then WENT BACK TO SLEEP! She woke again at 6 am and then they just kind of grumbled it out until 7 am when I magically appeared. We did this for about a week or so.<br><br>
Then, when I came back to bed dd slept all the way through until about 6 am (she even started sleeping through the 1 am, for some reason) and then she REALLY wanted to nurse but I was determined not to so we patted and shushed until 7 am and then got up. She was tired, but she only did it once and now waits until 7 am and we get up.<br><br>
Okay, what worked:<br>
- wearing clothes to bed (duh)<br>
- keeping one night nursing for awhile<br>
- patting and shushing and cuddling<br>
- having dh help and letting him (even when I was in the other room thinking, 'no she doesn't want a banana at 3 am!)<br>
- having a nursing chair<br>
- having a nighttime routine (bath, books, bed) consistently at the same time<br><br>
What wasn't so good:<br>
- one time she was SCREAMING and dh didn't wake up (he didn't hear her?!)- then I went into the room<br>
- sometimes (when she was sick, but I didn't figure it out) she would wake up and want to nurse after not nursing at night for days and I was stubborn and wouldn't let her. I don't think a sobbing, falling apart baby is the answer. I felt bad about that.<br>
- not reading the No Cry Sleep Solution first!<br><br>
That's my story.... good luck!<br><br>
PS: although dd generally sleeps well at night now, it isn't always! Plus sickness and teething and life and so on, so occasionally when the patting and shushing doesn't work, I do have to get up and nurse. Just so ya know <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I have a feeling this isn't what you're hoping to hear, but I would strongly discourage nightweaning at 9 months. I really can empathize, as my first DD nursed a LOT (!!!!) at night, even up until she was about 2 years old. I know it is so hard sometimes.<br><br>
I think, though, that particularly in the first year that forced changes to his sleep would be very hard on him. It's hard for us to determine which feedings are "necessary", kwim? Are emotional needs less valid than nutritional needs?<br><br>
I will second the PP suggestion to grab a copy of "No Cry Sleep Solution". I know it has a section for younger babies, and there are some gentle suggestions for adapting your night time routine in a way that meets both of your needs.<br><br>
Best wishes to you.
 

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midwestmeg,<br><br>
great post. thanks for sharing your experience.<br>
our dd is way older, 30 mths., and luckily, i can sleep through most of her nite dining.<br>
but with ttc, i have been worried how i would manage with two nurslings.<br>
i'll check out the No Cry Sleep Solution.
 

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I know it's rough but hang in there. 9 months is still awfully young to be "expected" to sleep through the night. Some babies do and some don't. I know it's rough. I struggle at times, too and my ds is 17 months old. I just keep looking ahead and thinking "this too shall pass" and it will.
 

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I just wanted to say that this new thing will likely change soon. It seems like it went along with your DH returning, but it's most likely the nine month thing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Babies at 9 months seem to like to switch EVERYTHING up, from going to sleep at weird times, nursing seemingly ridiculous amounts, and so on.<br><br>
I definitely remember 9 months as being a huge time of changes, but it seemed as soon as I got the gumption to complain (or boast) about it, he'd change again. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
I personally can't imagine what I would have fed DS at night to get him to not get hungry all night long (sometimes I can barely make it without being hungry LOL)...of course he didn't have solids until after 11 months so that idea was totally out of the question for us. But I've heard repeatedly that sometimes feeding little ones something to keep them asleep can actually backfire (just in my reading of such posts it seems the more you want it to work the less chance there is of it doing so LOL) and make them MORE restless...<br><br>
But I do wonder if this is just another occasion of "this too shall pass"...baby's awareness will become commonplace (so he'll rest more), the teething will start full force or teeth will come through and the extra nursing will slow down, he'll wake from a sleep 2 inches taller and the growth spurt will stop, etc etc etc...
 

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Sorry, 9 months is WAY too young to nightwean.<br><br>
hope things get better soon.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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OK, so I figured out what's going on - the thrush is back! I thought it had gone, but was wondering cuz my right nipple is still sore. DS fussed all day at daycare today and when I looked in his mouth, he's got white patches. So back to the gentian violet we go! Hopefully this will help. Thanks all for your advice!
 

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Poor baby and mama! Glad you figured out what it was...!
 
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