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I cannot cope. DH just doesnt get it. I wake up at 5:30, get myself and the kids ready, rushing out of the house we go to get one child to school at 7 then the other two by 7:30 then jet setting off to the office, I litteraly do NOTHING for 8.5 hours. From 8-9 I do some filing and then I sit and wait for the phone to ring, durning that time I read. At 3 the mail comes and I do payments and then at 4:30 I leave. I race to school, get the boys, get the older one, some nights I have meeting for PTO or the school board (which I am on) then I stop at the store, grab whatever to eat and hell some nights we just go home and order out. I never cook homemade foods anymore. I walk into my house that looks like a tornado struck right to the kitchen to start dinner, my toddler wants my attention so badly its painful and I am short tempered and frustrated with everything. So its me saying "Isaiah not right now, go watch TV, go play, I am busy" poor kid just wants his mama. We finally sit down to eat and this is when I normal go to my meetings if I have them or take the oldest to Taekowndo classes. by the time this craziness ends its after 7, its bathtime the bed.... no time to clean, no time to play, no time for anything... I want to find a part time job or not work at all. I want a clean house again, I want to cook for my kids, I do not want to be rushed and cranky all the time. I just hate who I am now that I am working. Why doesnt he understand?
 

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I'm right there with you! Seems like everyone just melts down all at once. Add a hyperactive dog that has been cooped up all day to the mix and I have a splitting headache before I can throw our 'dinner' in the microwave.<br><br><br>
The part time thing works really well for me. I can't decide which is preferable - 5 short days, which leaves me able to make dinner peacefully every night and would allow me to pick the kids up when they go to school, OR (what I do now) work a few long days. it saves us on childcare, and allows for days when we don't have to get up and go, but the full length days are really killers for us.
 

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Oh I totally understand how you feel! I used to commute 90 minutes each way which meant I dropped my kids off at my mom's at 6:00 am! Then I picked them up at around 4:30pm. I was so exhausted I had nothing left for them. Nothing.<br><br>
Now I stay home and our finances are really stressful and tight. But my kids don't know all of that, and they are happy and their grades have improved. Most of all, they just seem more centered. Whew! So do I.<br><br>
Only <b>you</b> now what is right for you and your family. While I do believe husbands and wives need to make big decisions like this together, sometimes my dh just had to <b>see</b> the results before really getting it...so I kind of "went ahead" and resigned my job, telling him what I felt I had to do for the greater good.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:<br><br>
Best of luck,<br>
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Thank you both for your replies. I think we as women want to do it all and sometimes we cant admit to ourselves that we cant. Not sure what I am going to do, it wont be till after xmas if I do anything. Gives me some time to think about it.
 

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you know, i actually still have the 75 minute commute and i drop my kids at my mom/sister at 4:30 am and drive a vanpool and am home at 5 pm, and life is actually better now then it was before when my dh had to be single dad for 6 hours, as now he gets to go home and rest for 3 hours. mind you, i still don't get rest, but i have 3 extra hours in the evenings with my kids and that's a good thing. anywho, i guess what i am saying you have to do what is right for you and your family. yeah, i still am primary cleaner. i hired someone to come to the house every other week to help out cause even with dh home at 1 in the afternoon, he wouldn't/couldn't do it. and i take a half day on the weekend to get my school work done for my classes, and do other stuff for an hour after i put the kids to sleep. unfortunately, i make more $$ then dh and so there is absolutely no way i can quit, but if you really want to stay home, and can afford to do so, then maybe you should give it a try... or take some on-line courses that you can work on during the day when you are sitting on your butt at work and figure out something else you can do that will make you feel mor productive. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 
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