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I was at Target near the Oak Park Mall in Overland Park at about a quarter to ten. I was alone. I was at my car, digging in my purse for my keys. A man came up behind me (I did not see him coming, I don't know where he was!) grabbed me from behind and said in my ear 'Drop your purse'. He had an erection. He had one arm locked around my throat and the other around my chest and he was pinching my breast. I wet my pants and vomited. I don't know why but he made a sort of retching sound, said 'You damaged fucking cunt', and disappeared. I got in my car and grayed out. Then I remembered that my purse (and keys) were on the ground behind my car. I was paralyzed. I could not get out of my car. I waited until I saw someone else (another woman) in the parking lot and then I got out, got my stuff and got back in my car. I wanted to call my husband but I didn't have my phone with me. I came home, (dh was asleep on the couch) showered brushed my teeth and came downstairs. I didn't call anyone. I haven't told my husband.<br><br>
Now I want to just forget about it. Keep pretending nothing happened. I played WoW last night, I posted to a silly thread about coats here on MDC...I made lunches before I went to bed for today.<br><br>
I feel like I have a responsibility to report this, a girl was abducted and murdered from this Target store this summer. But they caught her killer... I don't want to deal with this. I don't want people using me to improve safety at a Target in exchange for my peace of mind.
 

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OMG mama. I am so sorry. 1800656HOPE is the national rape crisis hotline - I would at least call and talk to them.<br><br>
I'm so glad you told us, thank you. Be strong.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I don't know what to say. Thank you for telling us. I hope that it helps you gather the strength to reach out for support from someone in your life. I am so sorry.<br><br>
You have a choice to report or not to report. There is no pressure.
 

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Oh mama! My heart hurts for you. How absolutely horrifying and traumatic! I really don't know what to say. I'm so very sorry that happened to you. Please be gentle with yourself. Maybe, if you feel up to it today, call the hotline and see if their input is helpful. Much love to you.
 

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Oh my god, I'm so sorry. I don't know what else to say<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I'm so glad you're safe. I'm glad you feel safe to talk about it here. Maybe later you'll feel capable of talking to your husband about it. It could help to have someone to sort it out with and figure out what to do, or not to do. Try not to pressure yourself to do anything right now. You've just experienced something very traumatic and that takes time to process. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Oh how scary! I'm sorry mama. I can only offer my support. You know, vomiting and wetting yourself probably saved your life. That was a good thing whether you meant to do it or not.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Oh how scary! I'm sorry mama. I can only offer my support. You know, vomiting and wetting yourself probably saved your life. That was a good thing whether you meant to do it or not.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"></div>
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No, I didn't mean to do it. It just happened. Though, the same thought has occurred to me.
 

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i am so sorry you went through that. you must be feeling awful right now. i know it will be so hard for you to talk about it, but please consider reporting it so that if there were cameras in the lot they may track this monster down. i'll keep you in my thoughts. hugs...
 

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Oh my goodness mama. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I am glad you feel safe enough to talk about it here. I am so sorry that sick ba$tard did that to you.
 

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How awful and scary. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
I know how bad you want to just forget the incident, but Targets usually have cameras and they may be able to catch him ... if nothing else, that should make YOU feel safer and will protect other innocent victims.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm going to keep you in my prayers that you can find some peace.
 

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I know the 'Targets usually have cameras' are meant to make me feel better...but really it makes me feel worse. The cameras aren't there to protect shoppers. They're there to cover the store's ass and maybe help AFTER the fact. Nobody is watching them? They're there to save the store's reputation pure and simple. That they might help catch a criminal is just a side effect it seems to me. They certainly don't make me feel any safer.
 

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My gosh that's awful. I'm so sorry that happened to you.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Oh, mama, I'm so, so sorry that happened to you. Thank goodness you are safe.
 

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I'm so sorry.......... I don't know what to say... Thankyou for telling us.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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OMG mama what a totally frightening experience. I hope you find peace for yourself, and strength to heal.
 

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I am so sorry that this has happened...
 
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