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<p>I'm a little confused coming off my ultrasound on Friday.  The tech asked me if I wanted to find out the sex and I said no.  We proceeded with the exam and it sounded like baby was looking fine (you know they're not really allowed to tell you anything).  Then near the very end of the exam, while she was finally checking the kidneys and pelvis (the minnow had been playing coy), the tech exclaimed, "Oh, She just peed!  The baby just peed!"  I guess the bladder had been full and then wasn't.  I thought about commenting on the slip but did not.  It seems likely that she reveled the minnow's gender, but it also came up in the exam that she confused details with the 15 or so other exams she had done that day when I mentioned them a minute or two later.  For example she told me the placenta was posterior, then anterior, then posterior upon checking it again.  </p>
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<p>So I suspect we are likely having another girl but don't know what to do with this almost info.  We are of course thrilled the baby seems healthy, but... I told DH and we are keeping it quiet for now.  I SO don't want any more pink clothes.</p>
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<p>ughhhh, I wish I had some awesome thoughts for you, but I just wanted to give <img alt="hug.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/hug.gif">'s because I know this would be bugging the heck out of me!</p>
 

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<p>I know there are techs that always refer to a baby by one gender or another, but sometimes they do slip :(  I hope for your sake it was just a blanket "she" she gives to all babies.  </p>
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<p>We found out our baby's gender but we are not telling anyone, so I understand your desire not to share.  In my opinion, that's just fine.  </p>
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<p>I'm really sorry your tech said that though ((hugs))</p>
 

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<p>yay that the baby is healthy! </p>
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<p>i wouldn't do anything with that info!  i would just keep assuming that you never found out since you really aren't sure if she was confused or just saying "she".  i definitely wouldn't mention her slip (if it was one) to anyone else since you really don't want people buying more pink.  that shouldn't be hard since you weren't planning on finding out anyway.  there would certainly be people i know that would conclude from that story that you are having a girl and start buying pink stuff.  i would be annoyed if that happened too.  </p>
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<p>if it's really driving you nuts (it would bother me!) i would ask your mw/ob.  maybe they noted the sex in your file.  i have no idea if they routinely do that or not but i have heard of a nurse letting the sex slip while the mom was in LABOR!   so sometimes they do.  </p>
 

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<p>I think that some people always refer to the baby as either he or she.  I think it's still going to be exciting as you won't know for sure until the end if it was a slip or not.  I'm with you on pink clothes.  We have two daughters and not sure on the gender of this 3rd child.  I am NOT a fan of pink and dread another round of super pink outfits.  Purple, I can handle, but pink gets a bit much after a while.</p>
 

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<p>Yeah, I'd just assume she was confused or just refers to all babies as she's or something. Cuz, really you still don't know. It'll still be a surprise. :)</p>
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<p>I wanted my second to be a surprise but the ultrasound tech ended up telling me at 34 weeks. Blah. LOL</p>
 

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<p>Thank you all for the commiseration and perspective.  I am feeling much more even keeled about it all at this point and am treating it as if I don't know.  I haven't decided whether I'lll ask the midwife if there was anything in the report. I guess we'll see what happens.</p>
 

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<p>Oh mama- ((((Hugs))))  Our tech did tell us that most techs do refer to the babies by a blanket he or she.  FWIW, I also know of someone who had the exact same thing happen, i.e. "she looks great!" when they had asked not to be told. They then asked for the gender to be put in an envelope and decided they'd open it in the future if it was driving them crazy.  After several days of feeling like it was a girl because of the tech's slip, they opened the envelope only to reveal that they were having a boy:)</p>
 
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