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Everything went fairly well. The one thing I wanted and didn't get was supervised visits. X gets both DsD and DS Monday and Wednesday after school until 6:30 pm and Sunday from 3:30-6:30 pm. All drop offs and Sunday's pick up have him exchanging DC with my parents, and he's not allowed to talk to them about the case and he can't go into their house. The judge said if he was more than 15 minutes late that all his visits would be stopped immediately. I was given temporary custody of DS, and temporary joint custody of DsD with her mother. We all have to go to Unified Services for a psychological evaluation before we go back to court May 17th. DsD's mother was also given an order of protection so X can't go near her either. I feel like it went ok. I really like my laywer, even though she is hard to get ahold of.<br><br>
I have a few questions though. What do I do if he doesn't get DC at school? They'd be stuck there! Do I call the police at 6:45 if he's not there yet? Or wait until 7?<br><br>
I'm sorry to everyone for being so quiet around here, I have a lot of schoolwork and no time to do it in.
 

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Kerry. Sorry you didn't get supervised visits, but I'm glad to hear<br>
how it did work out. I don't know how to answer your questions<br>
I have no experience in this area. I just wanted you to know that<br>
you and dc are in my prayers.
 

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Hugs<br>
Call at 7:01. Make arrangements for the school to call you if he is late/no show for pick ups. See if you can get the school to do sign in/outs for you.<br><br>
When you call the police, give the dispatch his infor, the RO info, custody papers.<br>
MAKE MANY COPIES OF YOUR TEMP CUSTODY PAPERS, HAND THEM OUT TO THE POLICE WHEN/IF YOU HAVE TO CALL THEM. Keep a copy of those papers with you at all times.<br><br>
CYA<br><br>
Been there, done that.<br>
hugs and things get easier.
 

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Wow, I'm so sorry they didn't make it supervised visitation. That's just unbelievable. How can they reconcile the mothers needing protective orders from this man, but somehow vulnerable, impressionable children are safe with him? Just doesn't make sense.<br><br>
The psych evals are a good thing - hopefully he won't be able to fake his way through. Fingers crossed for you!<br><br>
Can you actually wait nearby the school to ensure he arrives on time? At the distance stated by the protective order of course. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> If that's not allowable (hopefully someone who knows can fill us in!), and I could afford it, I'd hire a P.I. to follow and document. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Make sure there are plenty of authorized pick up names on the school list, Like if you know a family that lives by the school you could add them as authorized in cases whent the father is more than 15 minutes late picking up. They may let you add in a nanny agency also for emergency times. I hope everything works ok for visitation!
 

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The school is very laid back in general, so there is no signout at all. I asked the aftercare person to remember what time he picked up the kids and to tell me tommorrow. I think I'm going to get a notebook and leave it at the school so they can write the pick up times and any events that occured in it. I can't wait and see when he gets there because I have a class Monday and Wednesday 4-6pm, that's why he got those days. It's good because it helps me with childcare, but bad because I can't concentrate in class.<br><br>
X brought DC home at 6:34 tonight. That was the scariest 4 minutes of my life (well, actually 9 minutes because I started panicing at 6:25). I was pacing the grocery store around the corner because I didn't want to get back from class when he got there to drop DC off and cause a problem. I'm going to be fuming mad if he's 5 minutes late every time!! My parents will be keeping a log of what time he gets there as well. I don't think I can do much over 5 minutes, but it's still terrifying for me. Thanks to everyone for keeping me in your thoughts and prayers!
 

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If the judge said more than 15 minutes late, I'd call at 6:46. Seriously. 15 minutes is reasonable - it allows for traffic tie-ups, etc. Your notebook idea for school sounds good. And they'd call you if he didn't show at all, right?
 

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I'd go with what that. Also if he is consistently five minutes late you could bring that up to your lawyer and of course log EVERYTHING! Not sure they would do much about five minutes right away but it shows that he is being late. Just always make sure that you are covered and always have the kids ready on time.
 
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