[Spirit_of_Fire]

I have a 6 week old that we are co-sleeping with. We also have a 4 year old who started sleeping in her own room in October. She was still sleeping in our bed while I was pregnant with #2. My DS (#2) doesn't really need to co-sleep like my daughter did, but I find it helps with breastfeeding and getting enough rest. (I like it too!)

Yesterday my daughter said to me: "I wish V was back in your tummy so that we could sleep together." This is the first time I've heard her say something like this and I am a bit concerned. Since V has been in our bed I have asked her to sleep on a special mattress beside our bed instead of in our bed. We have a queen size bed, but it's simply not big enough and not safe enough to have us all in the bed. I tried sleeping together with her and him but she is too unaware of him in the bed and I once woke up with her half ontop of him.

I usually lay with her to cuddle at night until she goes to sleep, whether it's in our room or hers. Any suggestions on how I can better help her with this transition? I can see it's hard on her and I feel bad.

Thanks...

SoF

 

[tanyam926]

This is what we did :

From birth ds1 slept in big bed, when pg w/ds2 I got a toddler bed and put it level w/big bed so it's just like an extension and he moved over (still nursing to sleep and at night), when pg w/ds3 (they are all 3 yrs apart so at/almost 3 when new brother came along) ds1 moved to twin bed in same room (also weaned while pg w/ds3 at 5 1/2), and ds2 moved to toddler bed (so basically moved from middle to other side of me).

Could you put her mattress level w/yours and in between your bed and the wall? Then it might seem to her like she is still right there but it is safe for baby.

Ds2 is a crazy sleeper too so when I nurse ds3 on the side closest to ds2 in his toddler bed I put a big pillow in between them and then move him back to the middle when I can.

Good luck, I am sure you guys will find a sleeping arrangement that will work perfectly for everyone!

 

[Harmony08]

I have not advice. I only have one little guy. But I wanted to say that I think it is really great that you DD is so articulate and is able to share her feelings with you. Maybe there isn't really anything that you can do to change the situation. As a first born myself I know that there are just things that have to be when new babies come. But maybe her statement is a way to open up a dialogue. Maybe she just wants to talk about it. Remember the good days. Feel like you remember too.

 

[rzberrymom]

How about her mattress at the end of your bed? That way, she would have the comfort of being near you but without the rolling into the baby issue.

 

[Spirit_of_Fire]

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Originally Posted by rzberrymom How about her mattress at the end of your bed? That way, she would have the comfort of being near you but without the rolling into the baby issue.

Hi!

Thank you to everyone for your responses...

We have put a matress beside our bed on the floor and when it's late at night and I just want to go to sleep (instead of laying in her bed until she goes to sleep and then crawling into my own) then she will lay there on her own bed and I'll hold her hand or sing songs to her until we both fall asleep. Also, the bed/matress is there for when she comes in during the night..from her own bedroom..she knows now to climb onto the matress instead of into our bed and she seems happy with that. I have found that as long as I lay with her at night ot help her go to sleep that it is all that she wants. I am like her 'security blanket'....and it's a good demonstration of how well attached she is....she wants her mommy for everything....

Thanks again...

SoF