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Hi. I am not new to to this site, and not *particularly* new to this thread, as since the birth of my beautiful daughter 2 1/2 years ago via c-section, I knew I wanted a VBAC. Now, we are pregnant again, very excited to be parents again (hoping for a baby boy this time), and are hoping to attempt a VBAC. So far, everything looks like it's going to work out (low-transverse incision, so far healthy pregnancy, etc.) I *really* want a VBAC, as I feel I was cheated with my c-section, my ob wasn't honest with us, and didn't give us accurate information. But I'm terrified. I have been doing all the research, reading everything I can get my hands on, reading other people's successful accounts, etc, but I can't get the nagging feeling that something is going to go wrong out of my head. Does anyone know of anything I could do that might could help? DH is going to help me with some meditation stuff this evening to try and reduce general stress, so I'm hoping that perhaps that might help, but I didn't know if there might be something more specific to my situation. Thank you in advance for comments/suggestions/ideas. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Stop thinking of it as "try".<br><br>
You're not going to "try for" a VBAC, you're going to HAVE a VBAC. I had one in March, and it was everything I needed it to be - and honestly, the thing that helped the most in all my preparations was that my midwife said she was going to "catch" my baby, not "deliver" my baby.<br><br>
My personal limit was 41 weeks - I was not willing to go more than 41 weeks because uterine rupture scared me; I scheduled a repeat c-section for 1 week past my due date with a different doctor at the same practice as my midwife. My midwife canceled it. She never talked about a "trial" of labor. It was labor, period. She NEVER vocalized any doubt about whether I would be successful or not. She exuded confidence in me and my uterus the whole time.<br><br>
I had a 3 hour labor, and as she guided my daughter to the bed, she looked me in the eyes and said "Now that is what we call a successful VBAC." I could have kissed her, if I weren't swept so rapidly away by my beautiful little girl.
 

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I would also say to not think of it as a "try" or "attempt". I always thought of mine as "I am going to have a vbac". I am very lucky to have an OB who is fully supportive (his wife has one with their second child) and who left me alone to be the normal, healthy pregnant woman that I was. I am due again in late nov/early Dec and am going to have another vbac - hopefully at home this time around.<br><br>
While I did keep the risks in the back of my mind, I didn't think about them too much b/c I felt if I did that, then I'd drive myself crazy. I thought about rupture for about five seconds during labor and then realized how unlikely it was and didn't think about it again.
 

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The hypnobabies program was a big help for me... it helped during the birth itself, but the best part was how it helped me relax and take time during the pregnancy. I found the half hour a night sessions (and the affirmations, and the sleep time sessions) all very relaxing and reassuring. The feaar release sessions also helped a lot.<br><br>
I'm a librarian and an info junkie so I loved <a href="http://www.worldserver.com/turk/birthing/rrvbac2005-9.html" target="_blank">http://www.worldserver.com/turk/birt...bac2005-9.html</a> It's a collection of all the vbac related research, worldwide, from the 1900s on (the good, the bad, the ugly) with summaries of the findings. It was reassuring to me to see exactly what the data was, and what the risks were.<br><br>
I agree with pp... self talk is important...so much of a vbac is a confidence game where you need to believe in yourself and your body. You CAN do this, and you WILL do this! Books like Birthing from Within can help (there are exercises in that book to help you work through previous births in order to help your future bitrth). Groups like ICAN can help as well (there are ICAN yahoo groups and forums as well if you don't have a local chapter). Find a care provider who will give you the support you deserve.<br><br>
And happy birthing!
 

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I agree with the previous posters. Don't think of it as "trying". Remember Yoda "there is no try, only do!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rotflmao"><br><br>
I know it's hard to think about the "what ifs", but trusting in your body and having excellent and experienced support can make a huge difference.<br><br>
And congratulations <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"> I'm soooooo jealous!
 

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One of the reasons that I knew that I couldn't have a VBAC in a hospital is that they were only willing to give me a "trial of labor", and wanted to schedule my c-section for 40 weeks +1 day. With things like that hanging over my head, I ran! ran! ran!<br><br>
I am 37 weeks and <b>WILL</b> be having a wonderful HBAC, with my amazing midwife some time in the next couple of weeks.<br><br>
You can do it mama! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
~heather
 

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I think it's normal to hope you're not a repeat c. I visualized what it would be like to have another c and what that would feel like. I visualized what it would be like to push my baby out. I wish I could find the book that I read, but I can't right now. But one important thing I gleaned from it was to find a practitioner that agreed I could VBAC instead of trying to convince a practitioner that I could. So I switched to a midwife at 31 weeks. Best decision I made. I had to bring up the "what if........" as c-section was never in the forefront of her mind like it was in my OB's mind. It also helped that my husband told me to push away my fears of a cs when I was laboring.<br><br>
I wondered how my labor would end until I felt the urge to push. I was the happiest lady to push a baby out. I had a successful VBAC!
 

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One thing you MUST remember, is that there are no guarantees anywhere. Your doctor may not want to admit it, but there are significant risks with abdominal surgery also. If you can compare apples to apples, the risks may be in different areas, but they are nearly equal for both options (CS and VBAC). So to stress about UR for a VBAC, but not worry about infection or laceration with a CS is one sided. WHO gives several statistics for infection and death due to c section every year.<br><br>
The trick is to know yourself and know your body. To trust that this is a natural process and stay aware of yourself. I also found that speaking up when my DR told me something that was blatantly wrong was hard, but incredibly empowering.<br><br>
So continue your research and try to accept that there are risks with every choice. And remember that the risk of UR is present for EVERY pregnant woman, CS or not. Your ability to trust yourself and allow your body to work for you will make a huge difference.
 

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As has been mentioned, it should be called birth, not trial of labour, not attempted vb etc. I had a wonderful midwife who cut me off at every slight wimper of fear, as did my doula, they just reassured me with positive thoughts.<br><br>
Enjoy your birth, you will be a wonderful birthing woman, and I cant wait to hear about your VBAC
 
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