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just to spite my entire family! I am so flippin' tired of hearing about how we need to have a boy this time, and it's going to be a boy, and I hope it's a boy, and if it's a boy we can be done having kids, boy, boy, boy. I would hate to think of how disappointed everybody will be if it is a girl. Gees! Can't I just have a healthy baby. Yeah, no pressure here to HAVE A BOY! Ugh.... maybe I shouldn't let these comments bother me.<br><br>
Thanks for letting me rant.
 

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I'm sorry! I can see how they would bother you, it's not like you have any control in the matter anyways. I agree a healthy baby should be what they are hoping for.<br><br>
the same thing keeps happening to my friend too. She has three boys and is pregnant with her fourth and everyone keeps telling her "maybe you will get your girl this time". She says "I don't really want a girl, I wouldn't know what to do with one at this point, I just know boys".<br><br>
Hugs mama! Feel free to vent anytime!
 

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that stinks. I'm with you, how about a healthy baby? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> how many girls do you have?
 

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I had my 3 boys first and then my daughter came along. I heard lots of well you're done now, right? and Now you can have your tubes tied/husband can get a vasectomy because you're done now! right!? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> So very frustrating. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">
 

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Ugg, I am hearing the same thing! Everyone thinks I want or need a boy since I have 2 girls already. They keep saying they hope its a boy and that it isn't fair if we have another girl. Grrr. Most of all, I want a HEALTHY baby and the gender does not matter to me! I would be happy with a boy or a girl but secretly, I would just love another little girl.
 

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We've got two boys and everyone is convinced this is a girl b/c I felt so awful this time (it's been VERY different from my first two).<br><br>
I've actually told people that my husband did a special sperm sorting technique to make sure it's a girl.....I think once the word sperm is mentioned, people stop talking.<br><br>
(I could care less what this baby is, and honestly, the thought of a girl at this point scares me to death!)
 

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That's frustrating. I get the opposite from the in-laws. They are pretty insistent we all only have girls. So if this is a boy they might not be too happy...
 

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Really? Odd. It's not like you have any control over it!
 

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I hear ya! We have three boys, so everyone is sure that we are "trying" for a girl. The reality is, we'd LOVE to have a girl - though, I confess, the idea is also somewhat frightening! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I do NOT like telling anyone we want a girl (I may mention that my boys are hoping for a sister, but that's about it) because I do NOT want people to think that MY reasons for wanting a girl are anything like THEIR reasons for thinking I want a girl. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
My DH's family has only had boys born in it for several generations (at least)... BUT, each generation is quite small. DH's *entire* generation is TWO boys. Two only-children. So, um, didn't stir the pot much, did we? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> DH's dad is one of three boys, his grandfather, one of 3. No one was surprised (or terribly kind) when we had our third boy. This time, my MIL said, "So it better be a girl! Then you can be done." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"><br><br>
Seriously, my boys are wonderful. Why wouldn't I want another boy? We're in this for a new baby, not just one gender!
 

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I have a friend whose family was like this. They had SEVEN generations without girls! He *finally* gave the family a girl and his dad said, "See, we're not broken!" and my friend said, "No dad, this only proves I'm not broken!"
 

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I know, right. But <i>we</i> got pregnant. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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I'm with you. Have 2 girls and every one is all about this being a boy. Which, I would love, don't get me wrong, but shut up already!!! I love having girls and another would be fine with me.
 

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I hate it when people are like that! Sure some people do wish for one gender or the other but in the end, it's about having a new baby that we'll love no matter what. I only have 1 child, a girl, but still get people assuming we're hoping this one is a boy. What is it about the "one of each" perfect family scanario that so many people cling to? A coworker just had a boy and already had a little girl and so many people said how lucky she was/how perfect it is to have one of each. Am I unlucky if I have 2 beautiful girls? Will my family be less perfect than others? That's just stupid. The truth is that while I'm thinking this one IS a boy, dh has a strong preference for another girl. He LOVES being daddy to a girl and he likes the idea of raising stong, confident girls to add to the world. How cool is that? But he kind of feels like society forces him to have a manly desire for a son and that's unfortunate. Of course we'll both love whoever this person turns out to be!!
 

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I hear ya! My MIL has been wishing for a boy with each pg because it's "better" to have boys (cultural thing). In addition, I'm sure some people are thinking we are trying for a boy after 2 girls. Both of those attitudes frustrate me so much I want to have another girl to spite them (plus, why wouldn't I want another one of what has been so wonderful). This is a human being coming into the world, not someone's wish fulfillment.
 

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I am getting that a lot, too. We're only on #2, and we've told people we want 4 or so children....but my MIL said just yesterday...well, maybe if you have a boy, you'll feel differently...as in, maybe you can stop then because you will be completely fulfilled--b/c everyone's dream is to have one girl and one boy, right? so annoying. My dad is hoping for a boy, too. To me, it just seems rude to tell someone you hope they have one gender or another--especially if that person has explicitly stated that they don't care.
 
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