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Hi there, I mostly just lurk here and read. I'm up in the middle of the night though feeling sorry for myself so I thought I'd post. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I'm currently bf'ing my 26mth old Ds and had a shower this afternoon after nursing him post-nap. Well my breasts look terrible! I was small to begin with but after nursing they're almost non-existent, one scarred from my abscesses, both saggy, with stretched out nipples <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> ! I counted and between Ds and Dd I have bf for more than 58mths total (with a two year break between weaning Dd and having Ds). I'm wondering how bad are they going to look when he finally does wean, are they just going to disappear?! Should I start saving for implants? Dh doesn't seem to mind - but I had to go and look at bad boob jobs on awfulplasticsurgery - again! - to make myself feel better about my au natural ones.<br><br>
Anyways that's my rant, I'm sure I'll get over it.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My mom always told me the reason she is so flat is that my brother & I sucked the boobs off her! I used to be obsessed with how flat I was, but now - I don't really care if they get worn out - no one will know what they look like under padded push up bras I'll wear again after I'm done nursing. I guess with my stretchmark belly - boobs getting used up is not much different - we'll see how I feel about it in a few years though!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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oh how I long for the days my boobs were flat...two pregnancies andnursing my dd hasturned my boobs from AA to DD and I do not like it one bit!!!<br><br>
but on the other hand it's totally worth it...and oh how I wish I lived in a society that valued stuff like breastfeeding over stuff like how our boobs look, kwim?
 

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I had about a year between my first and second child where I was not breastfeeding and had no milk. My breasts did get a little bit firmer and more "normal" looking. :LOL I notice that while you're breastfeeding a child past one or so they don't have as much milk and they're often saggy, watery and small. I love when the kids haven't nursed in a bit and mine are actually firm! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> Doesn't happen very often though. My point is, once they really stop nursing, your boobs do go back a bit, though they're usually not the same size as when you started. My Aunt breastfed all six of hers for three to four years each, tandem nursing and even triandum nursing. She has fabulous breasts! So, there is hope for us yet. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Mine are different sizes...saggy...and smaller than they were before. I've gone from C to B.<br><br>
MamaAllNatural - I'll keep my fingers crossed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Thanks for giving us hope!!!
 

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when I got home from work tonight and dd and i were having our evening nurse, she stopped nursing and patted the boob, then rested her head on it. i guess she likes them the way they are right now.
 

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:LOL ds has just started doing this this week! the other thing he's doing that just cracks me up and melts my heart is he pulls off with a sigh, looks up at me w/ his ginormous brown eyes, graps the boob in both hands, and gives this absolutely beatific smile...<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
i think i'll nurse forever.
 

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I don't have personal experience, but I do believe that after nursing you get back some fat in your breasts.<br><br>
Maybe you can give yourself a good look over only before a nursing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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I know this might sound trite, but really, any time I'm feeling blue about my too big boobs, I just need to look at or think about my amazingly healthy, off the charts and brilliant child, and it's really ok.<br><br>
Even if my boobs are enver the same again.
 

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I hear ya on this one. On days when my supply is lagging and DD sucks me dry, I look like one of those tribal women in National Geographic. "Banana boobs" is what my DH calls them. But both he and DD like them anyways. And they tend to plump back up the next day. (Must be hormones or something.)
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My Aunt breastfed all six of hers for three to four years each, tandem nursing and even triandum nursing. She has fabulous breasts! So, there is hope for us yet. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"></div>
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Wow! Who is this super mama! She should get some sort of an award. That is too cool!<br><br>
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Let me tell you something weird. Well really wierd but you're the only group of mamas that might understand. I was looking at my breasts the other day in the mirror before I got into the shower. Same as yours. Saggy, small, stretched out nipples. I thought if I were to go into a doctor's for an exam they would look at my breasts and be able to tell that I have nursed for a long time right away. Then I thought of how proud I am of myself for nursing so long. Then I thought about how my breasts look like REAL breasts. The way they are suppose to look after years of nursing. IMO I think we all have beautiful, perfect breasts.
 

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Count me in with the banana boob tribe. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I swore I would never get plastic surgery, but when I am done nursing I am getting these things some lift. I was big breasted to begin with and I am only 33 and after nursing for 32 months so far - and who knows how much longer - they are sagging terribly! By the time I am 40 they will be touching my toes. blech.
 

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I went thru the same feelings. I swore that I was going to get implants to gain back the size I'd lost after I was done having children. I felt like a part of me was missing - the breasts I'd had were <b>gone</b>. To me it was like losing a finger or something, and I really wanted them back. Over a period of years, being single for part of that time and then getting remarried and having my second, my thoughts began to change... I first noticed that nobody really cared but me, so the part of me that cared what other people think stopped worrying about that. Then I started feeling pretty proud of my "new" breasts, thinking about the very true fact that the old ones never really did anything much and <i>I wasn't happy with them in the first place anyhow!</i> So what the heck was I missing?<br><br>
The last straw that finally removed the burden of perfection for me was spending time at this site:<br><br><a href="http://007b.com/who_needs_breast_implants.php" target="_blank">http://007b.com/who_needs_breast_implants.php</a><br><br>
this link is to the implant page but the entire site is fantastic. I go there once a month or so to refuel if I need it. Hope you find it as helpful as I have!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Thanks for the link. That site is awesome! I have toyed with the idea of getting my breasts lifted after weaning my dd, but reading that site reminds me that I would just be falling into the self-hating line of thinking the mass media is trying to push on us. Besides my saggy breasts make night feedings so easy, no need to roll over to switch sides. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I have hope <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
Before kids I lost 85 pounds. My breasts looked like bowling balls in tube socks. Then something magical happened...they shrunk. the firmed up. They were never perkey but they started giving me a little peek.<br><br>
well then I got preggo.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
The skin in your breasts is very elastic, but will take time to 'grow back' once you stop nursing. And that's my story and I'm sticking to it :LOL
 

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No words of hope just understanding.
 

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Mine look awful too, except they are not smaller, but bigger...I went from a 36c to a 38D. I cannot wear any of my old clothes. I can't button any of my old shirts. I want to give them to Goodwill but there is some little flicker of hope that some day my body will be even remotely what it used to be. Has anyone else kept all their pregnancy weight on while nursing?? I have heard some women don't lose it till they wean; I must be one of them. I NEVER lost a single pound.<br><br>
My boobs are scary... I am extremely white, and since I started nursing, they got very veiny. There are places even where they pop out like on a man's arm, which I think is totally disgusting. Dh doesn't seem to mind, but one day he did come into the shower and looked very surprised and asked me if it were normal. I mean I have white as a sheet, translucent skin with dark blue, huge veins all over them now. And they used to be so cute... now they are totally saggy and huge, and the nipples stayed huge, they never shrunk.<br><br>
Boohoo. Rant, rant, rant. Anyone else have veiny big saggy boobs out there?<br><br>
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Can I commiserate? I miss the days when my nipples pointed in the same direction (forward!) - now one's pretty much down and the other goes off to the side! And sooo floppy. I got quite a bit larger while pregnant and in the early nursing days, so I have tons of stretch marks and absolutely no elasticity in my skin. They look alright in a bra, but my days of going out in public braless are long gone.
 

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Well, mine look pretty terrible now (loose and saggy) but it doesn't bother me much. I've ALWAYS thought my breasts were saggy, even before I had a baby. I was so self- conscious about it in college. Now they still look bad, even worse than before, but I am proud of them because they are nourishing my sweet baby. If I had to choose between saggy, useless breasts and saggier, nursing breasts I would choose the nursing breasts in a second.<br><br>
Be proud of your breasts and what they have done, mamas!
 
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