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I just need to get this out. My husband is driving me flipping batty!!!! He owns and runs his own business from home. That's fine by me, he has his own office and he does his thing. However, he has suddenly taken on two employees (without talking to me first even though they will be in my home) and has rearranged the office. Fine by me except I hate how that room looks now. I am VERY obssessive about things including how rooms are set up and hiding cords. This room looks like @$#& and he doesn't care. To top it off it is the first room you walk into when you walk through the front door. He won't keep it clean and he won't help with the cleaning (he works all day....oh waaahh!) so I have not touched that room in about a week. This morning I wake up to him whining about it looks like a sty in there. SO CLEAN IT!!!! That room is so bad looking I was in tears in seconds. Maybe I am overreacting about it but it looks horrible and I can't stand that. So now we have two kids working in our house, that even though I know and like, I don't want them there 8 hours a day. I am so sick of him working at home. He seems to think that we need another phone line so the other day he takes off, without saying anything to me, and gets another one. WE DON"T NEED TWO PHONE LINES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He claims it is cause I use the phone so much during the work day. I talk to two people during the day, my sister and my mom and I certainly don't spend all day on it! I get off when he needs it and I answer the other line should it beep. To top it off I walk into my dining room this morning and find a fax, a printer, and two phones dismantled (the phones) on my kitchen table. I don't want his office @$#& overflowing into the rest of the house. I seriously want him to get an office. I am so sick of this!!!! He has now taken it upon himself to tell me when and when not to answer the phone. I'm sorry but it is my house phone as well! If he doesn't want to talk to a client and doesn't want the phone answered he should get a seperate line for the damn office. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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I'm sorry you're so frustrated! Is there a door you can close? A curtain you could put up? Set some kind of limits, boundaries where the office ends and the "regular house" begins? I'd do something like that and then just don't look - let him be responsible for the office.<br><br>
OK, I wouldn't be complaining about a second phone line - I think it's better for both of ya, so you don't have to answer the office line & he doesn't have to deal with the house line, but that's probably just me...)<br><br><br>
Just as additional observation & something to think about since I always try to look at things from a different angle... maybe this is a good time to look at your own obsessive tendencies? Are they really helping or are they hurting you, your family, your relationship? If they're hurting why do you keep with 'em?
 

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I was just wondering that myself....
 

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I know here you can get two lines but they both use the same phone line<br>
the second line has a different ring to it<br>
same line same phones in your house but different rings for each line...<br><br><br>
I would be annoyed being told I couldn't answer the phone in my own home too ..<br>
I agree with lizbethian though that if he is going to complain about it being messy he can clean the mess he made just mpo<br>
if he is saying that to get her to clean it seems like honey I need help with cleaning this would work soo much better?? Just my .02
 

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What if you got a cell phone? That way your mom and friends could call you directly. As for the messy room I agree with the PP about looking for a way to block it off.
 

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Yes he got a second line but both phones are used for the business. There isn't a seperate one in the office for him to use.<br><br>
My obssessivness about wanting it to look good (even though it's his own office) probably are a pain in the @$$ but like I said, it's literally the first room in the house. It looks horrible to walk in and see three days worth of dirty cups and a poorly put together room right off the bat. There is really no way to block it off (I can hang a curtain) but because the people he hired are so "at home" here they have no problem going through whatever I put up and wandering into the damn kitchen. They are constantly in there getting coffee or something else to drink and again adding to the mess. I can't tell you how many coffee cups I empty and wipe up after because they have no sense to wipe up their spill.<br><br>
He's getting an office. The one at home has spilled over and the work he does can't be doing that. This is a home not an office space. It wouldn't be as hard if he could stick to what he says. He doesn't work from 8-5 like he said he would, he doesn't answer the calls I need answered during the work day cause he doesn't feel he has to, and he sees no problem with his employees making themselves at home. He's out looking at one right now.
 

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If he has been using one room of your house for office space, make sure you figure out with your accountant how to declare that on your taxes. Home office space is a deduction on a Schedule C.<br><br>
It's great that your dh's business is getting big enough for him to afford his own office! It sounds like he might need to also hire a cleaner at least once a week for his office space. If he finds that he can't afford to move out of your house just yet, suggest that he pay to have someone come in and clean.<br><br>
If you are home during the day and expecting and he moves out, and you are obsessive, this is the time to (be much much smarter and more together than we were and) baby proof your house. By the time the baby is mobile you will be too tired to do that.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I am glad he is getting an office. Does he have clients who come to your house, if so having a messy office will hurt his business. I second the poster who said to hire someone to come and clean his office once a week.
 

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My obssessivness about wanting it to look good (even though it's his own office) probably are a pain in the @$$ but like I said, it's literally the first room in the house. It looks horrible to walk in and see three days worth of dirty cups and a poorly put together room right off the bat. There is really no way to block it off (I can hang a curtain) but because the people he hired are so "at home" here they have no problem going through whatever I put up and wandering into the damn kitchen. They are constantly in there getting coffee or something else to drink and again adding to the mess. I can't tell you how many coffee cups I empty and wipe up after because they have no sense to wipe up their spill.<br><br>
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Until he gets a new space go buy an inexpensive coffee maker, add a few mugs, and buy those little packets of sugar and milk/cream(keep them in the fridge and in the morning put out a bunch) and put them in the office area that should keep them out of the kitchen and make less mess for you.<br><br>
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It is hard enough having my dh working at home. I would go flipping crazy if there were two other people working in my home every day, and I am *not* the obsessive type. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
I hope your dh gets an office. My dh tried working in a home office that is right off the main living space. After we drove each other batty for a few years, he finally decided it would be worth it to finish off some space over the attic for his new office. It won't be done until next spring or summer, but we are both looking forward to his office being farther away from me and the kids!
 

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So why was he using your phone usage as an excuse? I agree with the PP, get a cell. If your mom & sis are long distance, it might end up costing less to use a cell. We usually spend about $25/mo on ours (prepaid), vs. the $50 + LD fees we used to spend with a landline.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">but because the people he hired are so "at home" here they have no problem going through whatever I put up and wandering into the damn kitchen.</div>
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It sounds like you need to have a serious talk with them. Have you tried just laying down the law directly with them, instead of asking him to deal with it?<br><br>
Or you could try scaring them out of your part of the house. Walk around topless and tell them you're practicing for nursing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mischievous.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="mischief">
 
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